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Please translate this man comment into English please??

9 replies

ScabbyChin · 07/08/2012 23:19

So conversation with new partner on facebook. We're discussing about seeing each other more often when I say something along the lines of "no pressure but if eventually the kids could be introduced, it would make visiting each other a bit easier? something for the future maybe"

He replied "yeah I'd love the meet them, lets see how we go eh?"

So what did he mean by this?? I read it as "shit, not ready for that yet!"

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QuintessentialShadows · 07/08/2012 23:21

I guess it depends on how long you have been seeing him? A year? 6 months?

a week?

kinkyfuckery · 07/08/2012 23:21

It could mean, "Yeah I'd love to meet them, let's give it a try and see how it goes!" Or it could mean "Yeah, I'd love to meet them eventually, but let's leave it a bit and take it a bit slower"

How long have you been together?

QuintessentialShadows · 07/08/2012 23:21

I am guessing you dont know him well at all, if you need strangers on the internet to tell you what he meant.

TeamGBIWI · 07/08/2012 23:22

I seem to remember from your other thread that you've only been together for 3 months. In which case, he is clearly telling you to back off a bit.

Just slow down. Stop piling on the pressure. It's not just about you and him, there are two lots of children involved, and you have to take things more slowly.

You are coming across as a bit desperate and needy. You will frighten him off at this rate!

CogitoErgOlympics · 07/08/2012 23:54

It means 'no'.

ScabbyChin · 08/08/2012 00:04

I didn't mean anytime soon though, I just meant it won't aways be this difficult to get together. Wish I'd not said anything now :( I did explain afterwards that it had come out wrong and I hadn't meant it to sound pushy and he said he agreed with me and that we should see how we are in a couple of weeks.
We're going away for a night next weekend.

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TeamGBIWI · 08/08/2012 08:10

That sounds good! Smile

Hope you enjoy your time together. Just focus on that - enjoying the times that you are together, and don't worry about the rest of it. If it's meant to be, then your relationship will grow and strengthen, and you will both find a way to make it work.

danteV · 08/08/2012 08:13

he probably feels the children should be introduced at the 'right' time for the kids rather than so you can spend more time together. Which could be how your message came across.
He isn't ready to take that step.

cronullansw · 10/08/2012 01:36

It means - great idea and something we'll address correctly when the time is right.

Clearly he doesn't feel that you are at this stage yet, perhaps you are seeing this is a more permanent thing than he is, going a little too fast for him?

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