boyfriend is breaking up with me, help

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He says he doesn't feel that things are going anywhere between us. I say that because I've been suffering really badly from depression that he hasn't given me a chance as the 'real' non-depressed me, hasn't known what I'm really like, I'm getting help from doctors but think we need to slow things down, be less angsty and emotional and give things time.

He thinks breaking up completely is a better idea than slowing down. I think that would destroy me and any chance of a friendship between us (we were friends for years before we were a couple).

I don't want to lose him. What do I do?

Are you living together?

No we live separately but I am currently staying at his house for a couple of days

No we live separately but I am currently staying at his house for a couple of days

If he's adamant that he wants to break up, there's nothing you can do except let him go and wish him well.

Letting him go with your blessing will be hard, but it won't destroy you unless you are determined to let it 'ruin' your life.

Clinging to him will only cause him to resent you and that will end any chance you have of staying friends in the future.

Be brave and let him go. You may find that he returns to you of his own accord but, if not, you'll have the satisfaction of knowing that you behaved honourably and didn't try to keep him against his will.

Keep your dignity, pack your belongings, and go back to your own home later today.

If you leave without recrimination or any overly emotional scene and don't pester him after you've left, he may think better of his decision and contact you.

If you've been friends for years, then has he not seen you when you're not depressed? Does he not know that this currently depressed version of you is just that, a currently depressed version, not the "whole thing"?

He sounds a bit like he can't cope with your illness, tbh - in which case, try and pity him for his weakness and let him go.

I agree you should go back to your own house - and leave it up to him to contact you. Do you have other friends you can talk to, maybe have stay with you for a couple of nights?

"I don't want to lose him. What do I do?"

Let him go with good grace. Living with someone with depression can be very difficult, a real test of a relationship and not everyone is cut out for that role. So break it off, work on getting yourself well and, when you're better, find someone new. You may not be able to remain friends but that's always a risk when you date one.