Relationship breakdown and council home

[InSearchOfSunrise]

Hello everyone,

I wasn't sure where to post this, because it's a complicated issue and the advice I am looking for is not really for my relationship, although it is relationship related.

I am currently living with my partner and toddler DD but although we are living under one roof, we are far from together. Our relationship has undergone so many changes in the past months, and I dont think it is repairable. We are forced together under the circumstances, as both our names are on a joint tenancy. As he has taken the second bedroom, DD sleeps with me in my room, and all her furniture has been shoved in there as well now, which makes it so hard for her to play. We are in a second floor flat, so she doesn't even have access to a garden. I aim to take her to the park most days, so she can run around and be a child, but I am also pregnant and tire very easily. We have one living area, which makes it extremely difficult on a day to day basis, as we are not on talking terms, and there is a horrible hostile and tense atmosphere.
I often sit and cry when I think about where my life is heading. I wake up feeling very low and down, and go to sleep feeling the same. My family are not in the same city, which adds to the feeling of being isolated. I do have a good friend who I see alot and who is very supportive. I just want to find a place where I can breathe a sigh of relief, and nurture my children the best way I can.

Anyway, I'm rambling on now. The advice I was seeking was that I have applied for a council home and sent off the documents etc, but I dont know if I will get something, or when. I am completely clueless about council homes as this is the first time I have been desperate enough to apply for it. I guess I just want a way out, but I want somewhere secure for my DD.

Are people in my situation given council homes, and if so, how quickly? I suppose I could move out and claim housing benefit on my own, but it is extremely difficult to get houses for people who claim HB around here, or so it seems. In the letter I received, it said there is an acute shortage of social housing, and that worries me because I just dont know whats going to happen, and how long it will take.

if any one can shed any practical advice/experience on this, I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks,

InSearchOfSunrise

You wont be offered a council home I'm afraid. As you are in a house. You have a roof over your head. Making yourself intentionally homeless wont help either.

Although unhappy, you are safe.

You may get put on a list but you'll be lucky to get an offer in 10 years. Can't you get help with getting another let? Or get him out.

Also the council will have a list of hb friendly lls.

Well you aren't in great need of housing yet. It's a private let at present?how long left on the tenancy?

'acute shortage' is code for not in the next ten years...

Thanks houseofplain.

Thats what I feared. Id have to look more into another let, but what happens with my name on the tenancy in such a situation?

He won't leave. I've already covered that ground, which has added to the hostility and tension.

Can't he get himself a bedsit or something? This can't continue surely. Eventually you will want to see other people and all that jazz for a start. Is he working? If so he needs to naff off and leave you in peace.

Yes its a private let, theres seven months left on the tenancy.

Lubey, he refuses to go. Yes, he's working. He's just hanging around..I don't know what for.
Perhaps he thinks its normal for us to hardly speak to each other, sleep apart, and live like strangers, but it's killing me.

So he is paying all rent etc? How are you surviving? do you work?

Your best bet might be to ask the council for help finding a place that takes HB and whether they can help with deposit etc.

Sounds very difficult for you atm. Perhaps CAB would be a good idea?

You might be able to explore whether you can get HB to stay where you are if your partner moves out?

If he thinks he cannot afford to split up and rent somewhere himself then perhaps he can apply for HB himself renting elsewhere ?

Or is it that you and your partner can't get out of your joint lease for some time?

Cross-posts.

He's paying most of the rent - but if he left, then I could claim HB here, I think? Im not working, I won't be working till after the baby is born now. The problem is, he won't leave. I think he expects a reconciliation somewhere down the line, and the fact that I am pregnant is somehow stopping him.

Could you consider going back to your home town? Where you could get more support from family and friends?

So he is providing financially? Buying food etc