A bit of background - I had a stress related breakdown a couple of years ago and am still in therapy to try to resolve a lot of the issues that led up to me being ill. It's not been easy, for either of us, but I thought we were coming out of the darkness.
One of my big issues is my family, particularly my mother, who treat me as the black sheep/ scapegoat. It's not great for the self esteem to be undermined all the time by those supposed to protect you! Recently my mother has behaved in an entirely unacceptable way and I am trying to process it (both on my own and with my therapist) and was discussing what we do practically with DH last night. He came out with "It's not my responsibility to come up with solutions to your fucking problems". What a charmer!
Understandably, that left me reeling and he has this morning presented me with a four page document outlining what's wrong with me - pessimism, sense of duty, guilt, low self esteem - and that he needs me to work on all of this to "break patterns of behaviour" (being sucked back into the family fold and getting upset, yes I want to stop this too) as my issues are affecting our marriage.
I am so upset, I know I have some problems but who doesn't? I would never tell him his problems were nothing to do with me - I thought that in a marriage we were a team, evidently not.
I don't know what to do now, I feel really alone and attacked by him.