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Advice - friend's ex ?same feelings?

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justintimefortea · 05/08/2012 00:23

Ok my background is that I have been single for nearly 9 years (apart from a couple of casual flings). Single mum with limited support so cant get out much.

I am first to admit that I am not very good at this whole relationship thing. Don't have much confidence and have been screwed over in the past.

Anyway... 4 years ago a friend of a friend (P) asked my friend if I would go out for a drink with him. Now I really liked P but confidence issues meant I avoided the question and the issue until it went away... fast forward 1 years and I am considering going for it with P when he meets one of my friends and asks for her her number...

Then followed an 18month relationship which she ended and in the process of breaking up pretty much destroyed him. She broke his trust, owes him money, really hurt him...

A year on this - P has really been there for me during some tough times whilst my friend (his ex) hasn't. I have found that my old feeling have been re-awaked.

Is he untouchable because he's a friend's ex?

Also... he will do anything for me, we have a laugh, banter and sometimes I think he's flirting but I dunno - not sure if he has any such feeling for me nor how I found out without ending up lhurt.

Help!

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ImperialBlether · 05/08/2012 00:31

She ended the relationship, so I'd think it was fair game.

However, do you still want to be friends with her? She doesn't sound very nice.

Houseofplain · 05/08/2012 00:33

Go for it.

justintimefortea · 05/08/2012 00:42

Interesting comment imperial
I think she is worth it & she went back to someone not very nice who has a lot of control of her.

Go for it....
How does one do that?
How can I tell if he feels the same?

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izzyizin · 05/08/2012 00:43

Given that your friend hung him out to dry, she obviously wasn't bothered about him.

A year's gone by since she put him through the mangle and in my book he's fair game for anyone - and that includes YOU. Enjoy Grin

As for how you find out if he's got any horny romantic feelings for you, take your cue from him. If he says something flirty, flirt right back or just bat your eyelashes and give him a come hither meaningful look full of Eastern promise.

he will do anything for me Before you test that out it might be advisable to make sure you've got clean undies bedlinen and condoms handy Grin

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