Due to DV, my relationship is over. We're still sharing a house until things are sorted, but in the meantime I could do with any suggestions on how to cope...
I still get regular interrogations about who said what/what I meant/why I'm doing things and I just don't seem to be able to defend myself! I'm constantly accused of lying, and keep trying to prove I'm not, when I KNOW I should just not engage.
But I don't hate him, and want to remain civil - so how do I just not engage with this nitpicking, swearing and namecalling that he does without being rude or nasty back?
I've done well at not attacking him so far - I've told him his behaviour is so unacceptable that we cannot continue, but I've not done any character assassination, provoking comments, unfair accusations, downright lies, swearing, spitefulness - any, in fact, of the things he has been saying to me. I want to keep it that way, but could really do with some phrases to remember instead of getting sucked in to justifying myself all the time when he's being particularly unpleasant.
Any offers? Many thanks in advance...