help....

[hurt22]

I'm a mom of one and currently pregnant. One month ago I discovered my husband has been sexting another girl. I have been a mess ever since. This only went on for 18 days and he put a stop to it after the other woman asked for money and yes he did send it to her. He told her that his wife was catching on so it wasn't worth it. At this time I wasn't catching on.....two weeks later I had a dream and decided to check the phone. He immediately started lying even called her to tell het to lie.....5 days of questioning knowing something wasn't right, she finally told me. I'm so hurt. Part of me wants to leave his sick self the other feels like I should try to forgive for our kids sake. Any advice would be great.

Has he even said sorry? What is he doing to show you he deserves another chance?
Sorry you're having a shit time

He sent the girl money? I suspect that he was engaged in more than 'sexting' with her.

Grab hold of your self-respect with both hands and tell him to leave so that you can consider whether you want to continue to be married to a faithless tosser.

Yes he has apologized saying he's screwed up majorly he can't give me a reason why he did it. He gets mad when I try to talk about it. Sometimes he's genuine other times a complete jerk. He set up an appt with our religious leader and then has made an appt with a counselor but its not for a couple weeks. I can't get the images out of my head....I bug him about

Yes he has apologized saying he's screwed up majorly he can't give me a reason why he did it. He gets mad when I try to talk about it. Sometimes he's genuine other times a complete jerk. He set up an appt with our religious leader and then has made an appt with a counselor but its not for a couple weeks. I can't get the images out of my head....I bug him about it all the time. How do you get over something like this?

I have kicked him out....sometimes I need him at home to help as we both work. You have to see he is Mr nice guy to everyone excluding me.....the best part about it is its his friends ex wife. He had sent his friend money before when they were in trouble. She lives in a different state. He called looking for his friend not realizing they were seperated.

The only chance you have is to make him leave. Unless he faces the reality of losing you he will not truly be remorseful or do the work needed to regain your trust.
I have to say - getting angry and refusing to talk are not good signs :( I don't think he is remorseful. And take it from me, one person can't fix a marriage on their own. It needs 100% commitment from the cheating party and right now you don't have that.

He doesn't sound as sorry as he should be. He shouldn't be getting angry with you, HE fucked up, he should be falling over himself to show you it was a mistake that he regrets and will do anything to show you he's worth it.
The money thing is setting alarm bells ringing too.
I think you're better off running away from this one.

What do I do with this baby inside me. I wanted to get pregnant so bad. Two miscarriages later it happens and now I don't know if I want it.

Only you can decide what to do about your pregnancy, maybe talk to your GP about the situation, there may be counselling that could help you.