Your thought please..

[Nanabana]

what would you think if you found a pair of novelty valentines socks not given by you in your DP's laundry?

Maybe he bought them himself in the sales for about 20p? Do you live together?

I'd think he had really bad taste in socks. Or possibly that he found them in amongst old stuff and was desperate for a clean pair so wore them.

Have you asked him?

Possibly, you don't immediately notice that theyre valentine themed socks. He works away a few nights a week, so he brings back a pile of laundry. I just haven't noticed them before.. When I asked him, ("nice socks, where'dyou get them?") he said something like "erm I don't know, you were with me when I got them I think"... I don't remember them.

I found a grotty George size 10 g-string on the kitchen floor a few weeks ago. I am nowhere near a size 10. Nor have I ever owned such a garment.

It had been mixed in with the dry cleaning.

If I was you I would be thinking a lot. Mind on overdrive.

But who actually buys a lover socks for valentines day? Thats a ltr/marriage thing surely? It was probably a jokey present from the people in work. Or he needed to borrow a pair from someone.

Honestly? I would think that they were a deliberate ploy from someone to get him found out at playing away. But I have been the wife to a cheating husband so I appreciate that my view isnt exactly impartial.

Pointless asking people what they'd think in their own relationship. You clearly suspect cheating and with good reason, I imagine. If he works away from home, there's certainly opportunity and if bought in Feb 2012, those socks give you a bit of a timeline. If he's cheating, he's also stupid not to bin such a naff love token and lazy to boot, not to do his own laundry.

Has anything else given u reason to be suspicious?

Oh and his "you were with me" is BS. Who buys themselves valentines socks on a shopping trip with their wife?!

Nope, I smell something......

I smell something too... and it's not stinky socks.

Whoever gave them to him has appalling taste but I'm wondering why you haven't noticed them before. A error on his part or did someone slip the offending items into his dirty laundry.

Methinks 'tis time for you to embark on a thorough pry. You say he works away? How far away? Any chance you could pay him a surprise visit?

I'm another that smells a rat. More from his reaction when you asked him.

If you have reasons to doubt him then you need to start digging deeper.

Do you live together? Could they have been lurking at the back of his sock drawer (could have been there for years) and just been turfed out when he couldn't find a clean pair?

For them to turn up now, after a trip away, would suggest he's just been given them, surely? Who'd give novelty valentines socks in the middle of summer?

He called me the next morning, and told me they were from a new pack of socks that his brother was going to fling out in the charity bin, but DH asked if he could just have then instead.. I do remember when that happened, just never noticed that they were valentines socks.. I buy the story as he got very angry and self righteous and was ready to pass the phone to his brother who could confirm.. Normally when I catch him out on something, he becomes very sheepish.
Have binned the flipping things now.

He works with family so I'm hoping that this means that he is not playing away, not that that should be the reason to deter him from being unfaithful; he should be able to do that regardless of where he is.

Apologies all round to your dp.

Is that a first on this board

Izzy

And there's him coming over all sustainable and waste not want not. Sorry you've been worried OP, glad there's a happy ending!

What do you mean Normally when I catch him out on something he becomes very sheepish ? Is he prone to lying to you?

So he's had all night to come up with a better story and he's gone from saying you bought the socks together to this?

Nanabana why didn't he remember this when you first asked?

If it was suspicious, what man would actually take them home and use them, knowing his wife will be washing them at some point.

You would have to be extremely thick to do that.

male - you would be surprised at how many cheaters slip up otherwise they would never get caught.

Whilst we were on the run-up to divorce, XH got a job clearing flats out. He was supposed to take everything to the dump, but couldn't bear to throw usable things away. As well as the infamous used pregnancy test kit, which he thought I might want (!), he brought home a pair of skinny jeans with sparkly print which he said had previously belonged to an 18-year-old girl.

Reader, he wore them.

coming back to this.. IMO now, having thought about it, although I was well within my rights to be suspicious, I believe his story. Maybe i'm in denial, but let's see.

Lizza In response to your question: "What do you mean Normally when I catch him out on something he becomes very sheepish?"

He once said he'd stopped smoking, and i caught him at the end of the garden one day having a fag (he used to take his top off so that the smell didn't linger.. very sneaky I thought).

More worryingly I've found on his internet history that he's looked at porn sites but that's the extent of it.

I really do hope what he told you was the truth. It is however still going round in my head about him having enough time to come up with a feasible alibi.

Maybe I'm just a cyncial old mare.

Just keep them spidey senses activated for a bit.

i hope i'm right