I've just been burnt by a short fling, but feel quite upset. In a way, I'd just like some thoughts on what happened and how I behaved.
I met a woman at a conference (I'm a man) in the US. She is from an Eastern European country, and will be there all summer, but lives in the US. At the end of the two week conference, we get on so well, we're in the infatuation stage, and we both begin to talk (stupidly) about love. We agree that I'll fly to visit her for a week to see how we get on. As I'm about to leave for the airport, she emails me to tell me she still has feelings for an ex. I'm perturbed to say the least but she says she still wants me to come. I fly over there, and it's a bit awkward. We're staying with her parents who speak no English, I don't speak their language (other than thank you, please, etc). In the week together, we spent an awful lot of time with her parents which I found a little difficult because I couldn't communicate. We go to a wedding together, and I'm presented as the new boyfriend, even though I know the ex story. We did do some really nice things together and were intimate with each other.
At the end, we agree to have some time to think, but we leave with hugs and kisses. On my return, we skype, and she tells me she thought I was ungenerous and an ungrateful guest. I'd really tried to be a good guest, bringing gifts for her and her family. The lack of generosity referred to two incidents where I allowed her to pay for coffee, which I wouldn't even think of as a problem, as I'd paid for coffee on other occasions. I feel quite hurt thinking I'd put a lot of effort going to visit her and that spent a fair bit of money to do so. I think the trip was sabotaged by her revelation about her ex, so to appear to blame me seems rather unfair (BTW, I didn't accuse her of this, it's just something I've thought since).
I know I should just chalk it up to experience, but I'm in the tender stage and would just welcome some advice. Did I behave badly on the trip?