Flirty man at work has ignored my facebook friendship request.

[toptramp]

Just that really. He has been making eyes and even came up to me in a nightclub plus a lot of chemistry and shy smiles. I have caught him staring at me on more than one occasion.

I thought I would find him on facebook and ask him to be my friend over 2 weeks ago but no luck. Is he

a. In a relationship?
b. Not actually into me at all and I have been reading the signals wrong?
c. Freaked out as he thinks I'm a psycho stalker
d. Away on holiday.
e. All of the above?

He is friends with some of my other colleagues (including female colleagues)so even if he isn't interested in me at all like that he could aceept my request just as a friend. We do get on. Unless he in fact hates my guts. He does dosn't he?

I am looking for other options in the romance department but i can't help feeling a bit hurt.

May I ask how old you are op?-its just you sound desperately immature with all the infatuation/lusting after unavailable men and it seems to be a running theme with you?.....

Aw! It's only a spot of fun.

"Men aren't shy? silly thing to say!!!"

No, I don't think they are - not when they really want to ask someone out. As I think your own post proves, Offred . Your 'silly' comment was very rude, by the way. It is possible to disagree with someone without resorting to being offensive.

I think it's unfair to ask the OP what age she is! It's a rejection of sorts which is never easy whether you're 17 or 37. Added to that, it doesn't really make sense. I think bluesue has it though. He has a gf somewhere and he wants to compartmentalise his life and fb would have his Worlds colliding which is a no no for a player. sorry.

The objection was to the "men aren't"... My point was that my DH was so totally crippled with shyness about women he fancied that I had to practically pin him down and he still was unconfident even then...

It is silly to say "men are" or "men are not" anything. Men are people, they are all different.

I don't think it is a matter of "disagreeing" either. Actually objectively speaking statements that assert that men or women are or aren't shy cannot be substantiated. If what you mean is you think people who like someone else don't behave shyly, I'd have just disagreed. Saying "men aren't shy" I think is a silly thing to say.

Yep I think he's a player which is a no no for me. I will look else where.

Cancel the friend request too!

No, I don't think they are - not when they really want to ask someone out.

I'm a man. I was VERY shy at asking out any woman I fancied. Still would be, I think, though thankfully no need for that.