New relationship - ALWAYS wear a condom?

[NikitasSidekick]

First time with a new guy - say if you'd known him about two months and you knew he'd had a vasectomy - married previously for 17 years - would you still insist on a condom?

Not a real situation for me yet - I'm just curious.

My Ex Husband had a sti check just before we got together after leaving his ex cos she had cheated and cos he was my first for everything sexual i didnt need one, I had only ever kissed someone before.

I have the implant and still use something just in case of STD's etc

what happens if say, you forget once, then is it a bit pointless to insist after that?

Yes always until you have both had clear sti tests.

I have asked several previous partners to take a test. With the last one it was clear we were going to be an item, we talked about it on date three and he offered to get tested and of course I returned the favour.

BigB it is still worth being tested, HIV for example, is not always transmitted immediately.

I dont think all sti's are transmitted on first occasions, so its definitely worth it and anyway you still need testing to make sure you havent got them.

Definitely use a condom until you are both tested.

As previous posters have said it will weed out any tosspots. If he us prepared to sleep with you without a condom how many other women has he done it with!

I've always used a condom until sti tests were done, whether using other contraceptives or not - never had problems with asking guys to do it. When we've not had any on us, we've done non-PIV stuff which has been fine with them too.

I had to get the MAP recently and the pharmacist said that it's now recommended for all women to get tested for Chlamydia annually, even those in exclusive relationships/not in relationships, because it can lie dormant for so long. Have to admit I haven't got around to doing it yet and I can't imagine anyone is actually following that recommendation. But it's worth getting into the habit of being tested for stis regularly even once you're in a committed relationship, as it's surprising how many stis can lie dormant (and of course you can never be 100% sure your partner is as committed as you).