DH lost his job just before DS was born. It maybe wasn't as bad as it might have been, as it was a part time job and he had a part time freelance business. We also agreed that we wanted to move away from where we stay to somewhere smaller, where DS could have a garden and a bit more freedom.
DH did apply for a couple of jobs, but decided he wanted to concentrate on building up his business for six months and, if that worked out, would be full time self employed. That's fine with me - his business can be done from home.
Except, it's been nearly 3 months now and he hasn't made any effort to get more business; although he's getting a little bit more work it's not really making up for the job he lost.
I've suggested a couple of jobs to him in the areas we want to move to (rural, so not as much choice), as well as close to where we live, but he just comes up with a whole load of really picky reasons about why he can't apply for them.
I don't want him to be unhappy at his work, but then, he's announced he wants to apply for a job that would tie us to staying where we are for the next three years. Obviously he might not get it and I think I'd really resent it if he did.
I'm on maternity leave from my pt job at the moment, for another 3 months, and have suggested I apply for jobs in a few weeks or do some freelancing myself (I was doing some but stopped after I had DS). But he doesn't want me to do that, either.
I'm just really confused about what he wants and he accuses me of nagging him if I try and talk to him about it all, or offer to help. I think we're at a fairly good time to move and change direction, but he's apparently dithering away and we just seem to be totally lacking direction and it's getting to me. Any advice? Am I being too impatient with him?
I'm really fed up with it all - help!