My sister is finally happy! More than I've ever known her to be. Since meeting this this guy over 8 years ago, she's calmed down on her crazy nitelife, married, had children, done a degree and lives in a beautiful rural town in England. All very nice. Problem is, she can't stand her in-laws and wants nothing to do with them.
I live 3 hours away, and as her only present family as parents aren't around now, I can't really support her apart from through counselling on the phone. I have said she's needs to button up and just accept them for the sake of keeping the family together. She fears her husband would prefer to hang out with them, in which case, it would bring out a side in him that she utterly abhors- chavness! My word not hers. They are middle-class but with a desire for all things pop culture in the lowest possible taste (according to her). At the heart of this tastelessness is a lack of interest in simple things, like nature, going for longs walks and not watching TV. She has once or twice had a pop at me for being 'pop' culture and falling for gimmicky things. But Ive just told her to 'pop off!' as we both trained in art and design and I don't feel I need to justify my taste. Yes there is an issue of taste, but she argues it's more about them being unable to see life beyond i-pads and TV.
The latest problem is that her sis-in-law is arranging the birthday bash for said partner (my sister's partner) as a way of inviting all the family and old friends pre my sister. Another contention, since sister and partner does not have any contact with his old friends
What would you suggest she do?