What are my rights - my husband is about to leave me

[irishbab]

The emotional part is going to be awful I know but a part of me is saying I need to get my practical situation sorted first before he goes...I had the big career and salary but after 3 kids(5,7,11) and staying at home looking after them I only have a part time job (about £400 per month), no savings of my own, we have a joint mortgage and a joint account . What are my rights? Am I entitled to any money from him if he goes, who pays the mortgage? Can anyone give me some practical advice as to what I should do , what should I put in place?

Thank you

If he wants to try Relate that could be a good idea. Even if it doesn't mean you get back together, it may help build a good co-parenting relationship, and help you understand what's going on

sc13 - that is a good idea. I asked my STBXH to go to Relate when he walked out, but he refused, saying that there was no point. He didnt understand that its not always about getting back together, sometimes its about making sense of everything. Sadly my H wasnt interested full stop :-(

My STBXH was also terrible at communication full stop!

My H came back, although I have not let him move back in and am very much taking things at my pace. He showed no interest at all in staying with me until I went out, started doing my own thing, became independently minded, left him free to do whatever he wanted and filed for divorce. All of a sudden I became interesting and attractive again, and OW became the available one. I'm very confused about everything, but at least I am in control.

The very worst thing you can do if you want him back is to be clingy and desperate, and willing to do anything at all for him. Hold your head up and say 'fine, off you go...' and see how he likes that.

However, there is a saying that goes along the lines of 'the very best revenge you can take on an 'other woman' is to let her have him'. Worth thinking on that.