Obsessively anxious/scared?

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My o/h has had some scary symptoms lately of the precursors to heart attacks (I wish I had never googled!!!!) yet he won't seek medical attention. Keeps saying he's fine.

I'm terrified (irrationally so) that he's going to .... (I can't even say the word. It makes me cry and my throat closes up, panic attack I think?)

I know this isn't "normal". How do I stop thinking the Very Very Worst? I know he needs to see a Dr. But I can't force him really. I just need tips on how to cope with the feelings that every time he leaves the house, I won't see him again.

If you're the nervous type, Googling symptoms is never a good idea. How 'scary' were they, in reality? Do they warrant a trip to the GP?

He's been having chest "pressure" and sudden sweating spells. About 7 times in the last few weeks. Dr Google says these are indicators of heart attacks. Thus I am terrified if it happens again it might be the last time :(

They can also be symptoms of indigestion, of course. Is he over 40? Does he have any other risk-factors present?... Overweight, inactive, smoker, poor-diet, anxiety?

Yes to most of those. He's over 40, overweight, busy lifestyle but no real exercise, kind of stressed at times.

I spoke to a nurse friend who basically said he could be a ticking time bomb so I need to drag him to the Dr to get fully checked over.

Your nurse friend is really helping your anxiety . Yes, he probably should go to a GP but a lot of men are very funny about acknowledging they are mortal. If you are very frightened then I suggest you go to see the GP yourself, explain about your panic attacks and the reason behind them. They may find a way to call him in for a 'check-up' or make a home visit.