Internet Dating

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When doing internet dating do you think its a good idea to use a web cam prior to meeting your date? Do you think you can gage any chemistry to know if you will get on in real life? Any thoughts on this?

Thanks HazleNutt for that suggestion. @ Numberlock can i ask why you find dating men in their 40's a problem?

I think the dating men in 40s is an issue because so many of them in the 40-50 age group are looking for women max age 36 or so.

So I would be happy to date guys in the 40-50 age group, but not many of them want to date a woman of 45. (me)

I think the dating men in 40s is an issue because so many of them in the 40-50 age group are looking for women max age 36 or so

Yes that's what I've found, Melty. A lot seem to be looking for younger women to start first or second families with. Either that, or they've got so many ex-related, child-related issues etc it's just boring to listen to them. Or they are old before their time and have given up on life!

I don't have a problem with dating younger men, prefer it in fact, but I find that men in their 30s want to settle down and have kids which I've done.

littlesugaplum wow girl you have bottle!! I would be way too scared.

Im 40, been told i look about 35. I get mixture of ages messaging me on pof. An 18 year old was massively affronted that i wasnt interested in him no point in talking to a guy whom my daughter would be interested in!!

I joined a site and created a profile which made me sound (I hope) normal, warm, good humoured........ I got about 4 or 5 hits. Now I know I didn't put up a photo but I would have emailed one. The reason I'm sure is that although I put in 40-50 as my prefered age group, being 42, I think men of 40 - 50 put in 25-39 as their prefered age group. It just wastes everybody's time really. So ashamed to say it but I got virtually no interest on a dating site. :-[

socially retarded mong

Holy shit did you actually mean to come across as socially inept yourself and horrendously offensive? ohemgee24

IME And i'm fully aware i'll recieve a fair bit of incoming stating this, however there's equally as many female players as male on dating sites these days.

Since i moved to the big smoke & attempting to get some form of a social life the online dating scene is worse than ever, which is spoiling the genuine minority.

Remember, please don't paint all 40yr olds with the same brush ;-)

so malemum, tell us your dating horror stories, in the interest of balance.

I don't really have any, because speculating here, I fell outside of the prefered 29-39 age range that the 40-50 men I "ticked" had selected.

It's so annoying though. Like so many women my age, I have all my own hair and teeth and haven't put on weight in the last 20 years. Godammit, I look well for my age!! Although I am not claiming to be beautiful here. I guess it's an AGE old story, no pun intended. Men have this notion that they deserve (?) to be with a young woman even when they're no longer young themselves... or is it even more depressing than that, can they simply not fathom being attracted to a woman over 40?

Bigbandwitch which site u on? On POF u can message any man you want. I always send a friendly message if i like someone. I'm 4 months pregnant so unfortunately its a bit of a put off too

I was on a site called parship which claims to match your personalities. I liked that idea. I only got about 4 or 5 messages and to be fair, the ONE man I did end up messaging, I got on with him very well. We had very similar senses of humour we each knew (even on line) when the other was joking. But we carried on emailing each other for too long. When we met up it was like a bubble burst. Because he was a very nice guy we sat down and had a nice evening anyway but it was absolutely obvious to both of us I think that we'd built each other up, and then when we saw each other we both felt a bit foolish.

I should be a bit more pro-active. I'm seeing somebody at the moment and although it's not serious, as in, we won't end up waltzing into the sunset together, but despite it being casual he is very respectful and decent.

But at some point I'll need to get back into the tank!

re the age thing I'm mid 40's and when I use dating sites I get messages from men in their 20's and 30's as well as 40's.

I always put photo's in my profile