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How old were you....

102 replies

TeacakeTilly · 30/07/2012 14:12

...when you got together with your DH/DP?

And if you were quite young do you ever wish you'd met them later?

I was 19. Wish I'd been older!

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ChasingSquirrels · 30/07/2012 18:24

current DP - met him when I was 27 (and happily married), he interviewed me for the job I am still in. Got together with him many years later after mine and then his marriage breakdowns when I was 39. I am now 40 and a year on very very happy.
Wish had "met" him earlier not later, but obviously we did met but neither of us were in the right place for a relationship together.

Not-yet-ex H, we were both 18 when we met and 19 when we got together. I never wished I had met him later. I frequently wish I had never met him after it ended! But we basically grew up together and unfortunately he didn't want our relationship any more.

TheJoyfulTripleJumper · 30/07/2012 18:29

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JustFabulous · 30/07/2012 18:30

We were both 23. I wish I had met him sooner though he thinks we wouldn't have lasted if we had.

JustFabulous · 30/07/2012 18:39

" because there is no need for them to get married (I don't see it as a romantic thing to do but a legal contract)"

Offred it might not seem that there is no need ot get married to you but it isn't about you.

modifiedmum · 30/07/2012 18:47

I've been married before. I met him when i was 15, married at 21 then divorced a year later. Met current partner at 22 and now 25. I feel a lot more like i know what a i want from a relationship with this partnr and i "know" he is someone special in my life. With first hubby i think it was the whole we'd bene together so long, childhood sweethearts etc etc. I'm a lot different to who i was at 16/17 even 21. I think having my son changed me.

Nobhead · 30/07/2012 18:51

22, DH was 24. Married whenI was 27 and he was nearly 30 and had DS a year later. I jumped from a 6 year relationship with someone from aged 16 straight to relationship with now DH- I kind of wish I had dated a bit first as I've never really done that.

kalidasa · 30/07/2012 18:51

I was 30, he was 32. We both knew who we were, what we were looking for and what we wanted and so things moved fast - we moved in together after a few months and I was pregnant before we'd been together a year. I'm glad we didn't meet when we were younger, I don't think it would have worked! We both needed to grow up first.

myalias · 30/07/2012 18:53

I was 26 and he was 21 ...... been together 20 years, married for 17. Both of us had come out of long term relationships. For both of us it felt perfectly right Smile

dondon33 · 30/07/2012 19:40

I was 15 and he was 10 years my senior yes should have known better
and to be perfectly honest, I would wish I'd never met him if it wasn't for my DC.
Had the first at 17 just the second at 19 and the third at 22.
Was with him 16 years before I ended it. I've never looked back :)

Been with current DP for almost 3 years and it's completely different :)

LordOfThe5Rings · 30/07/2012 23:52

I was 17 when I first met him.

18 when I started to date him.

I'm 22 now and I know I made the right decison because everything feels right with him. I don't wish I met him later, I just wish from 16 to 18 I hadn't wasted time with my stupid XP and could've experienced a few more relationships or close friendships beforehand but I know now I never want to go through a relationship unless it's with my DP/DF.

mrsXsweet · 31/07/2012 00:11

20 when we started dating, moved in together at 23, married at 27, 1st baby born at 28, 2nd due later this year (will be 31). We're happy and hopefully will remain so!

Offred · 31/07/2012 02:07

Just fab- I know that's why I'm not interfering. I can't help being sceptical that this will work out well for them in these circs - being so immature and never having been exposed to life or responsibility. Bro's attitude is "if it doesn't work we'll just divorce" ok, except he wouldn't do that because of crazy religious upbringing he doesn't even believe. I think this may be the path to unhappiness bit it is his mistake to make.

anairofhopeFORGOLD · 31/07/2012 02:20

Met when i was 22 married at 25 first dc at 27 second at 30. Still married Hmm
Dh is 7 years older than me.

piprabbit · 31/07/2012 02:29

I was 17yo. We've been together for 25 years although only married for 12 years and had our DCs quite recently.
I can't imagine life without him. I've never lusted after anyone else in RL (or been aware that they were lusting after me) so I can't begin to think about how I would have gone about meeting anyone different. I'm not sure if that is a good or bad thing.

AxlRosesLeatherTrousers · 31/07/2012 03:21

I was 16 when I met DH and he was 20. Got married when I was 21, first dd born when I was 24 and dd2 born when I was 28. Been together 18 years now.

No I don't wish I was older when I met him, the way I see it, meeting him so young saved me from going through a load of frogs before I met my prince. Wink

angryfurball · 31/07/2012 03:56

I was 18, he was 26. Married him when I was 21.

I wouldn't change it, I didn't have to waste my teens/20's on a bunch of unsuitable men, and he got 8 years of debauchery before settling down with me.

bigTillyMint · 31/07/2012 07:35

DH when I was 31 and he was 27 Smile

Glad to have tried plenty of frogs Wink, and lived with someone for 6 years first - DH was the complete opposite of all previous!

Had DD when I was 34, married at 35, DS at 36. Still together aged 47!

WaitingForMe · 31/07/2012 07:52

I was 26 with an abusive marriage under my belt (met ex at 19). I have no regrets as I think I appreciate what I have more than a lot of people. I wouldn't have looked twice at DH had I met him earlier as I didn't know what I needed.

milk · 31/07/2012 07:59

Met first boyfriend when I was 15 years, 10 months, 10 days.

Broke up with said boyfriend at 21 years, 7 months, 27 days (after dating first boyfriend for 5 years, 9 months, 17 days)

Met now DH at 21 years, 8 months, 1 day (5 days after breaking up with first boyfriend Blush)

Got engaged at 22 years, 1 month, 2 days.

Got married at 22 years, 6 months, 2 days.

Had DS1 at 23 years, 2 months, 25 days.

DS2 is due when I am 24 years, 9 months, 10 days.

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TheCunningOlympicBMXStunt · 31/07/2012 08:02

We met when I was 27 and she was 24. We had both had a long term relationship before it. We had both been single a while when we met.

JoandMax · 31/07/2012 08:13

I was 19, he was 20 and both students. We got married at 25, first baby at 27, 2nd baby at 29 and currently ttc now at 31.

We changed massively from 20 to 30 but luckily both in same ways and our relationship is very strong, although I do feel it was very young to be so serious it just happened! We never had any breakups or doubts we'd be together for the long term.

Loads of our friends are just starting to settle down now having done so many exciting things but I feel we'll do those things when we're in our 40s and are children are more independent and can do them with us.

I wouldn't change anything about when/how we met honestly

LadyLilyWilliamSnowflake · 31/07/2012 08:20

I've known my DH for as long as I can remember, we were in school together right from primary school up to Secondary school. We were really good friends until the age of about 17 when we started seeing eachother.

So have been together nearly ...... 10 years Shock and have been married for 5 years.

I'm happy with the way that things worked out because at the end of the day I married and have kids with my best friend (really cheesy I know, sorry)

FoofHundredMetreFreestyle · 31/07/2012 08:26

I was 23 and after 4 solid years of nightclubs, idiots and dodgy hook ups it was exactly the right time.
He was 19 when we met and maintains that he has no regrets about settling down at that age. He had been doing the club thing since he was 16 and was also ready.
After 15 years together quite happily it turns out we were right.

christmashope · 31/07/2012 08:32

I was 19 when I met my dh, we got engaged and 21 and married when I was 24, I am now 33 years old and dh is 36. I suppose nowadays we were quite young but it was the best decision ever!