should i invite him to DD's party?

[loganberry12]

Its my little girls 3'rd birthday in September im taking her to peppa pig world and staying over in a hotel. we had planned to take her before ex h left so im still taking her but taking along my adult daughter instead. the problem i have is the next day im going to have a party for her with friends and family should i invite ex h? Don't really want to as i will feel uncomfortable having in my home but i know my D D will ask for him. what should i do?

It depends how well you get on with him.
I invited my ex to our daughters birthday and he was an absolute dickhead about it from the moment I invited him so he will never be invited again.
Do not feel guilty if you can't have him there! He can do something with your daughter seperately

Let him do his own thing for her, it would be a shame if you were too stressed to enjoy the party and that will rub off on DD too. That's the reality of parenting after you split up - he will miss some things that you do with her and you will miss the things he does with her.

I know 3 is still little to understand the ins and outs of separation, but she knows he doesn't live with you anymore, so if she asks for him, just explain that as he doesn't live at your house anymore he's going to have his own little birthday treat with her (presuming he will!) and list all the other people who WILL be there for her at the party.

My DCs are older, but I would still find it incredibly difficult to share parties etc with stbxh at the moment. Maybe in the future, but not yet. I'm dreading Christmas already.

If he makes you uncomfortable and stressed, I wouldn't invite him. Childrens parties can be stressful enough and your dd doesn't need the possibility of upset at her birthday. He can do his own thing with her to celebrate.

If you feel uncomfortable doing something, don't do it.

Your gut is telling you that it's not right for you.

He can do his own special thing for DD, if he so chooses.

if you dont have him in your home because he was abusive or violent then no don't invite him.

if none of that but it is too soon since separation then dont, let him do another party for her separately .

be matter of fact with dd she will be fine.

We took DD to Peppa Pig World in September last year and again in March for her 4th birthday. She loves it there. Your DD will love it!!

I wont be inviting my STBXH to my daughters birthdays from now on. He can have his own party with her. Its something that they have to accept comes with them walking out, they miss out on the special moments....