What the hell is wrong with me? I've turned into a bunny boiler within a week

[NikitasSidekick]

So I'd been chatting to this guy on POF for ages - kept arranging to meet up but something always happened so it was about 2 months or so before we eventually met.
Well, since the night we met I've not been able to think about anything else. I feel obsessed with him. I find myself checking my phone every 5 minutes to see if he's text and if he takes a while to reply, I automatically assume he's no longer interested and get myself all down and stressed out.
We've only seen each other 3 times so it's far too early to be saying we're even an item yet.
This week we have a walk along the coast planned for tuesday, a night out Friday and and an all day into early hours of the morning festival for saturday ... yet I'm STILL sat here thinking "he's not interested".

The thing is, I know all the right signs are there. He tells me he thinks I'm gorgeous, he's glad we've met etc etc and obviously he's still up for more dates yet I find myself constantly thinking he isn't interested - despite the fact that the poor bloke has done nothing to suggest that.

What is wrong with me?? I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm NEVER like this over men. Usually I can take them or leave them but this guy - I just want to be with him constantly. Has anyone else been through this? We've not slept together or anything btw.

Oh dearie me. Obsessing ain't healthy and it plays havoc with frown lines.

Right Let's have a - I mean a recap:

1. You've hooked what seems to be a keeper on POF. Well done you!! The internet dating post, now on it's 17th thread, is evidence that you've acheived a rare outcome as most of them are barely fit to be termed tossers tiddlers.

1. You've enjoyed 3 dates with him. Again you are bucking the trend as most of them are never heard of again after the 1st date.

1. You've got another 3 dates planned with him - all of which sound mighty romantic from where I'm sitting Give that gal a medal!

1. You've got this far without jumping his bones - give that gal an Order of Restraint Merit!

1. He tells you you're gorgeous and that he's glad he's met you.

And you think he's not interested?

Jeez, honey, he sounds well on his way to being head over heels.

Now lighten up, stop fretting, and ENJOY his company because he very obviously enjoys yours.

Just go with the flow; if it's meant be, it will be. And if not, you'll have good memories of a brief, but fine, time to warm the cockles of your heart in later life

It sounds lovely. Someone has created a spark! Very exciting!
I know that it isn't easy to remain composed. We've all been there. In my case I am currently Mumsnetting whilst perched on the side of the bed feeding his baby.

He is probably just as thrilled as you. try not to panic and become too paranoid.

1. He is doing all the right things.
2. He is saying all the right things.
3. You love his company.
4. You are making lots of plans for future dates.

No red flags so far. Enjoy!

Yes, can DEFINITELY relate to the pull on the heart-strings but I think you're obsessing a bit too much. Relax and take it as it comes. Try not to force it and just enjoy his company. One thing I do know from a friend's relationship is that pushing things faster than they naturally would pan out puts too much pressure on a relationships and dulls the sparkle pretty quickly. Let it evolve, enjoy the honeymoon period while it lasts but don't tell him you check your phone every five mins..!!

Love your post izzy

Thank you kindly, cat. Love your boots too

I think you're in that hugely intoxicating phase when nothing but constant contact is good enough But I agree - he is very interested, treating you respectfully and nicely. He is probably trying NOT to text you all the time in case you think he's obsessive, clingy, needy and desperate! As it is, no red flags - enjoy!