I am 36 weeks pregnant and have fallen out with DH. I don't have anyone to talk to about it, my best friend is at work all day and then busy with her kids etc. Just want to get it out of my system really and get some opinions on this.
DH went out on Weds night, with his best friend who lives locally. They went to a works dinner thing. I was expecting him to come home around midnight usually, but as he was not driving (ie would be drinking), then he would usually be back around 3am. Which I don't like, but he doesn't do it very often (less than he used to), and still gets up to help with DCs in the morning before going to work, so I can live with that.
I text him at 1am to find out when he's coming home. No reply. He still wasn't back at 7am, when DCs (aged 3 and 4) woke up. I text him and said 'Good to know where your priorities are. DCs are asking where you are, I'll tell them you are out getting pissed with your mates at 7am shall I? Still no reply so I assumed his battery had died.
He text me at 8am saying he had no reception, just saw my messages now, something had happened, he was ok, and he would come home and explain and then go straight to work. He came home around an hour later, 9.30am, acting as if nothing was wrong, and I had to ask him what had happened (he can be a real twat with sharing information generally, even if its not important, he just wont think to tell me).
I was expecting someone along the lines of his friend being injured/taken ill and they had been in hospital with no reception, or something just as serious to explain his fuck-wittery.
The explanation I got was: they were at this fancy works dinner, lots of mutual friends on their table. One friend got a call that a (female) friend had been beaten up by someone she had lent money to). It turns out that DH's best friend knows (and dated) this girl very briefly, and the guy who beat her up is a nasty piece of work who has done this to other girls before
So I asked what happened - did DH and his mates go and check she was ok? Umm...no, they chatted about it. So, again, I asked what happened. Did they call the police? No, they chatted about it. And basically were up all night, at a friends house, just chatting about this girl being beaten up, and the drama of this man who had done it. That was all. He didn't sleep all night, just them sitting around chatting like students with nothing better to do at 4am.
When he was recalling the story to me he was so engrossed in the little dramas of it all - the fact this guy was married and was cheating on his wife, and the fact that the girl had lent him money (£10k+) which she would never see again etc. He was enjoying the drama of it basically, and had stayed up all night acting like a kid.
I went mad at this, I really don't care about this girl or these teenage dramas. He is 38 years old, I am 37, and I am 36 weeks pregnant, and was at home with our young children. Not once during his 5/6 hour chat with his mates, did it occur to him to call me and let me know he's ok, or text me and and check that I was ok. His excuse for not calling me was because he had no reception and didn't know I had text him, and didn't want to wake me by texting me. I was so pissed off by this point I could have cried.
I feel so damn insulted that he can have an all night chat with his mates about a random girl he doesn't even know, but couldn't spare a thought for me that evening. Not 30 seconds to check his phone reception or drop me a quick text. I could have even had the baby, and been back home by the time he had bothered to think about texting or contacting me.
I haven't spoken to him since he came home and told me the story, I can't bear to look at him at the moment. It sounds so petty written down, but I am just so disappointed in him. He hasn't said sorry, but has been home and acting a bit sheepish, which is about as much of an apology as I ever get from him. He's gone to work now. I feel like I am married to an irresponsible twat.
This is ridiculously long, and I don't know what I am after. I am just pissed off and needed to say something to someone :(