Today I have decided...

[worrywortisworrying]

... to stop being a doormat.

I have waited, for too long, for others to somehow treat me with respect, but never asking for it or demanding it or even expecting it. I don't even treat myself with respect.

For once, I am going to do something for me. Not because I'm a mother, or a wife, or a daughter or a sister or a friend. Just for me.

That is all.

Well done worry, it takes a big step to get to that point. I'm in a similar situation myself - I feel as if I put myself out all the time for my kids in particular (3 teenagers) and get treated like a doormat. Numerous examples but this morning got up at 5.30 to iron a shirt, make a cooked breakfast and give a lift to the station to my son, who came down grunted at me, complained about everything I was doing, knocked the breakfast on the floor accidentally, stared at it, left it there and sat in the car waiting for me to clear up. Enough! I've just booked us a 4 star holiday in a resort they chose, I'm changing it to a 5 star of my choosing, spa type place and they can stop moaning. Sometime a light goes on and makes things clearer, doesn't it?

Tell me what you're going to do about it then ...

Well, first off, I'm going to sort my clothes and put them in a wardrobe, instead of shoving them down the side of DD's chest of drawers, just because my DH has so many clothes they fill EVERY bit of space we have.

I am going to have a bath, shave my legs and sort my eye brows out. I am goin gto wash my hair and actually smile.

I am going to clean the house and put stuff where I would like it.

I am going to buy some flowers.

I am going to do what I want - not what I think is expected of me (which is never good enough).

I am not going to feel I have to send my DS to a school I don't him to go to just because other people feel he 'should' go.

I am not going to get bothered about people who feel my DS 'should' behave in a way that is unnatural for him.

And most of all, I am not going to have a drink

I am actually just going to enjoy my day. For me.

Sounds like a brilliant plan AND while you are at it, change your MN name to ICANdoWhatIwant

Answers for things from now on:

Because I wanted to.

No. (is actually a full sentence and needs no explanation)

I chose to.

I needed to.

When you buy the flowers, also buy yourself something nice to drink instead of the alcohol, shloer or fruit juice or rio or something

tis done.

Here's a woot!woot! for you.

give us a twirl with the new name!

This is it... Still me. Just not worrying anymore

Oh well done NotWorrying

I have lurked on your threads before. Well done, please update us at the end of the day!!! (And enjoy YOUR home!!)

you know.. l think l am going to follow your lead Worry.

Fed up being a people pleaser and worried about what others think.

If you can do it so can l

You rock girl ( and hopefully l will too )

Wow!

Go you!

I might copy you a bit.......

Sounds like a good plan.