I've been married to DH for nearly four years. We have had lots of ups and downs. I feel like a doormat and I wonder if he will change.
In our first year he lied a lot to me. For instance, telling me he had to work in another city overnight but had a belated stag do hosted by workmates. I found out as he had set reminders in his phone when to ring me so that I would believe him. Even to the extent he got his secretary to lie to me where he was when I couldn't get hold of him.
When he drinks, he drinks to the point where he can't remember what happened. He would go out with clients and say I will be home at1am then turn up around 5am. And in that time, I could never get hold of him. And this would mean that I would stay up worrying that something had happened. This too while I was pregnant. After each time he would promise to change but he didn't. And it still happens.
While I was pregnant, he had a one night stand. Its been hard to get over and we are still working through it.
He recently got caught drink driving. Which I was shocked about as he is so against that. We nearly lost everything. His job, our income, everything he put on the line.
He has started goin out again. And I am ok with that, but on the basis he keeps in contact with me. So far, so good.
But yesterday, he we t out and came back at 2am. Not bad right? But he told me he was getting a taxi at 11.30. It's a 30 minute ride home. So it took him 1.5 hours to get home. And I must have rang him 30 times as I was worried. He was apologetic but told me that I can't expect him to be perfect straight away that he will make mistakes. But it's not straight away, it's four years