Help me get out of an abusive relationship

[PizzaSlut]

This is the first chance to post since it was suggested i post on here.

My D"h" is useless parent who controls me and how the kids should be raised. he doesn't help em with the DC's.

Today he forgot to pick the kids up from an activity while I was out with DD1, when I saw him running late coming back from a shoppiong trip with DD1 running late he walked out because he was going to hit me otherwise.

I let him back in to talk but I want him gone. I don't want to live with fear. This was the second time in 6 weeks he's done this to avoid hitting me.

His dad was like this, his mum doesn't care for him. I want to be the free independant fun single mum I was when I met him.

Call Women's Aid on 0808 2000247 for advice.

Are you and your children safe? Never be afraid to call the police if you feel in danger.

Yes Women's Aid are brilliant

At the moment we are safe, he's at work. I don't leave him with the kids.

He is unable to see anyone elses point of view or be objective. He shouts at us, he loses his rag reguarly.

I'm transferring every penny I can to get us out. I know he will hit me, i know he will hit one of the kids if they dont behave as he expects.

The house without him is bliss, we are relaxed, we have fun, I can be the mum they deserve. He's jealous of our son and any affection I give.

Could you see a solicitor?

Mind you Women's Aid will tell you how to go about getting him out of the house.

Call them now.

I hope you manage to get out soon, it sounds horrible

Thanks, I will call in the morning.

Yes, he is horrible. He can't tolerate the children, he picked DD2 up from a friends on monday while I was out. She had bubblegum in her hair. He didn't get her to wash it or brush it through, the next day it was a mess and i had to cut her hair at the root on one side because it became matted.

He abused my son today and DD1 was verbally abused for daring to speak.

I'm a bloody mess living with him, its a HA house, once the house was in my sole name and he expected to be put on.

He's not cared for months, he onyl cares about money, cars and holidays. I'd prefer to be poor and happy.

You can call Womens Aid now - they will be open

Yes Women's Aid are open 24 hours a day pizza. If he's out now it might be a good idea to call them.

As well as squirreling away money try and get hold of any important documents like passports and keep them somewhere safe, preferably with someone else you trust.

Can't you go to the HA and explain things? Won't they let you keep the house?

He 'abused' your son and 'verbally' abused your dd1?

How did he abuse your son and what did he say to your dd?

Please please call Womens Aid and get some help.

How are things today Pizza ?

Pizza? How are you doing? The Housing Assoc has a duty to help protect it's tenants, please get advice on how to get this man out of your home?