Could be our "first time" tomorrow night. Nervous as hell. Please talk me through it.

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Been seeing a guy for around 2 months. Very much attracted to him, we get on brilliantly, have tons in common, laugh about the same stuff, want the same stuff, he treats me great and tomorrow - has arranged to pick me up, take me to his house and cook for me. He has asked what time I needed to be home - I said whenever as the kids are staying out and he replied "well, lets see how you feel later but you could always stay. No pressure though x"

I want to stay. I really do but I'm terrified of the whole thing! it's been a LONG time for me. We have not discussed contraception or anything. I'm not on any - so do I take condoms with me? assume he has some? what if it comes down to it and there are no condoms at all??

Should I bring it up before hand?

I know most of you wouldn't put this much thought into it but I'm a natural "over thinker" and just want our first time to be perfect. I really, really like this man.

Take some with you if you think it could happen just in case he doesn't.

If you feel you're ready, then take some with you. Hope the evening goes well for you :)

Take condoms. He'll almost certainly have done, but better safe than sorry.

Good luck

take some
have fun

Take condoms.

I bet he'll have some though, so there will be no need to get them out.

Or you could be really old fashioned, and not have sex until you have discussed condoms (at which point he will produce some).

Have fun!

Tea lights

Ky jelly

Laugh

And report back here tomorrow

Ok - will buy some.

Can I just ask also - if a guy invited you around for dinner and suggests you stay the night - he's definitely on about sex right? I don't want to be the one that comes across as being a bit forward!

I have visions of me pulling out condoms and him saying "woah, bit early for that isn't it!?" haha

Yes. He'll be hoping that there'll be the possibility of sex, but not necessarily expecting it, if you get what I mean.

He sounds lovely. But it would be a good idea to discuss contraception, and use condoms in any case unless you have both been tested. My Mum is 68 and recently started a new relationship and was stunned when her doctor asked if she had been taking precautions but apparently STD's are becoming more common among older age groups. (Not saying you're old BTW!). Hope you have a lovely time (I'm jealous!)

You need to discuss contraception before hand, surely?

Definitely take condoms with you.

Don't do anything you don't want to do.

Let someone know where you are.

pmsl @ tea lights and KY Sounds like an old peoples home!

It's a Friday tomorrow - the rules are you do bumsex on a Friday

You don't really need to discuss contraception - it should be condoms full stop with a new partner anyway. Just take some with you and when you know things are definitely headed that way, if he doesn't produce some, then you are covered :)

And so will he be!

Good lord, KY jelly on the first night?

Just see how it goes, OP, don't plan too far ahead.

I agree with bagelmonkey OP. if you asked him to come to yours for a meal with a possibility of his staying over.....what would you be expecting?

Hope it all goes well, and you have a lovely evening!

You lucky,thing!!

just take (the condoms and) your sense of humour and enjoy it!!

I had my first, super rare (almost zero childcare) sleep over last week... as it was, dear old mother nature intervened, so it was a set menu than the full a la carte.

It was fine, more than fine actually, it was heavenly. If you're not quite ready, and 2m IS early somehow, then you don't have to sleep with him, unless you want to.

Went over last night btw.... a la carte menu this time.... awesome!

if he says he has had a vasectomy, get him so show you the 2 little scars. good luck for tomorrow.

How did the date go OP? x