I will try to keep this as short as i can, i need some advise because i cant seem to make a decision for myself anymore.
I have been with partner for 11 years, 2 kids 9 and 5. I always seem to walk on eggshells, im always scared to tell him about anything thats troubling me because he doesnt GETit. His mother today told me his dad is the same and for an easy life she just says yes dear no dear even when she knows she is right. He seems to think the world owes him something. 2 weeks ago my boss reversed into our car, he has agreed to pay for repair. intially partner was fine with it, now he doesnt like where i have agreed to take it and wants to go through the insurance with the car...would make my life and job very awkward i need my job and enjoy it and if the guy has agreed to pay dont see what the issue is!! but my feelings dont count for anything as usual... My parents have had enough of him which puts me in another dilemma. He is on antidepressents as was very ill last year and was threatning to kill himself, we saw numerous docs, to which he said i am wonderful etc but he doesnt show it!. He also told me last week when i tried to brouch the subject of splitting, that he would never want to see the kids again. He said that as everything is his i would get nothing, i said all i want is to be happy again and a contribution to the kids, he said NO! I do love him so much because when he is grounded things have been soooo good. but i am fed up of feeling down trodden and worthless. Am i being emotionally abused or am i just over reacting? He will walk in and grunt at me, frown at me and ask whether im stupid? then the evenings are so hostile not talking etc, when i say this he says well its you ignoring me! maybe i am but i go into my little shell as by making conversation is like walking through treacle.
I said to his mum that we should be equals but i dont expect she will say anything as she is most probably as worried about confrontation as i am.
He blames his moods on his bad back or my lack of housework(to which he bever helps) he spends weekends night fishing most of the open season, to which he does take the oldest kid with him.
Even she rolls her eyes behind his back at times..
If i want to go anywhere with my friends i have to ask him to babysit!
I really need to hear from people who have similar experiences... If i go i can go back to my mums for a while (which will be awkward) but with all the new changes for tax credits etc coming in, i would be up shitcreek without a paddle.
Help!