Any Advice Greatly Appreciated

[preggofabulous]

I'm in the awkward position of being pregnant by a co-worker. I have to see him everyday at work and also his new girlfriend. this is bad enough, and causing me so much stress I'm having to take a week off work, and now i find out he's spreading rumours about me sleeping with other people at work (which are completely untrue). Im considering putting in a formal complaint but im worried this will just cause more problems, but i also think i need to make a stand. any thoughts?

We need more info - were you in a relationship with him? How far pregnant are you? Does he know you're pregnant by him? Does his girlfriend know? Do you want the baby? Does he want the baby?

we were together for 10 months but neither of us ever considered it serious. i started to want more but he said no, and then i found out he was seeing her too, so i put an end to it. im almost 15 weeks preg, he knows and doesnt want to be involved. I agreed to keep it quiet that it was his but then he told people anyway. She knows and she's making things difficult, even though i'm staying out of their way and not discussing it with people.

Tell the truth and shame the devil. Keeping quiet only makes him look good. You've been made pregnant by a ratfink boyfriend who cheated on you with the woman he's with now. Who could fail to be moved by that story and totally take your side?

I agree with Cogito.

He sounds like an absolute arse, and his rumour spreading needs to be stopped ASAP. I think being upfront will be best. And if you haven't slept with others at work, then he is slandering you and other co-workers should know this.

Rumour-spreading upsetting enough to have you take time off work with stress is a serious matter, btw. Definitely should be reported to HR or your line manager.

They are trying to force you out. You have every right to be doing what you are doing.

I agree, go public. Shame the sorry tosser for what he is.

Go to HR and tell them that it's affecting your health, that you need their support i this and rattle a few words about taking legal advice about your situation past them.

OP u asked for advice and have been given some. I suggest you take it. None of this will make you look ad if you want him back, god forbid, but you and baby haVe rights ance this includes financial support down the line. HR really do need to be told.
Honestly what a poor specimen he turned out to be.

He told everyone I had slept with my assistant and that was why I'd hired him, and then it got reported to my boss bringing my professionalism into question. I've now had to tell my boss the whole sorry tale, but luckily my boss is being supportive and agrees I should complain.

At the moment I've been made to feel like the bad guy which I don't like and that I should just leave. However, despite being constantly tired I refuse to let this man walk over me again. Thank you for the support :)

Support is always there for you! Often I'd day discretion is the better part of valour, but not on this case. He smaCks of unprofessionalism and good on you for keeping your boss in the loop. OP I suspect if you are honest, professional and straight up with colleagues, he'll hang himself anyway. Liars always get caught out! DON'T go round slagging him off, and the.jobs done! He and new gf will guaranteed not be pleasant...

Trust colleagues to work out what's going on...with the odd, DISCRETE nudge in the right direction from you!

Good luck and focus on your lovely baby to be...