Hello!
Looking for advice from people with more relationship experience than me..
Background. I left my partner of 12 years in January. It was my first proper relationship (I am 29) and it was never particularly happy. He was often quite abusive towards me, but I didn?t realise until I left just how bad/abnormal it was.
Since then I have properly started living; reconnecting with old friends I neglected, making new ones, lots of new hobbies, work going well. Had counselling to help process my relationship and help with self-esteem issues. It has really helped and I am feeling settled and happy.
One bored evening around 7 weeks ago I signed up to a dating site and met a few people. Been seeing this one guy since then and think I am falling. How do I know if this is something I should persue or just ignore as I am probably on the rebound? I am only seeing him once or twice a week (a limit I set - he would like to see me more often), but I do just want to see him all the time. He makes me feel obscenely good (and I think I him), but I am scared about getting involved in another relationship so soon.
I?ve tried having a few more dates with other nice men since then, but nothing comes close to even the first date I had with this man.
What can I do to work out whether the way I am feeling is 1. Just a rebound, 2. Just because he is so nice in contrast to be horrible ex (which many men could be) or 3. Something, well, better and worth hanging onto?