Its funny how they get this massive shock when reality hits them isnt it. They walk out without thinking about the future effects and costs etc.
My STBXH pays £300 to his best mate to live there, for everything including food. Rent for a room in a shared house is about £280 a month, but there is no way he could DD overnight in a single room in a shared house..... A one room flat is about £450 and a 2 bedroom terrace is about £575. He is paying me £100 a week at the moment (which I know wont last.....). So there is no way he can afford to pay me, rent, then all the bills and food on top!
When he left her he said "I will live in a bedsit if I have to". I said, well if you would rather do that, live apart from your daughter, than stay here and try and work on saving your marriage, that is your choice.....
The reality is somewhat different isnt it. Now he doesnt want to move out of the cushy number he has, living with his best mate and OW...... meals on tap (and god knows what else is on offer when her H is out....). Sky tv, watching football every night (when its on I know), clothes washed, no responsibilities, no lawn to cut, no cats to sort out, no bills to pay.....
Cant afford a deposit, but can afford a holiday abroad with them!
Stay firm, you dont need him back. I would have given anything to have my H back after he walked out at Easter, but I know now in my heart that it would never work ever again.
I understand how you feel though, its so difficult......