How do you mend a broken heart?

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Long story short, my DP and I separated this morning. It's complicated snd involves living in different locations, families, jobs etc.

We are both heartbroken

We said goodbye to each other this morning after 5 wonderful happy years together

I am in bits. Completely broken.

How do I get over this and move on. I cannot even see how I can get through tonight, let alone my whole life without him

This is when you need a good clichee. 'Time heals'... 'keep busy'.... 'be kind to yourself'.... 'take it one day at a time'. Corn on a stick but all very true, especially the one about time. There will be days when you feel like you're wading through treacle and days where the sun will come out and you can laugh. As time goes on there will be more of the latter and less of the former. Good lcuk

I've name changed btw. I'm a regular poster.

Good luck regular poster then

Although I do wonder how locations, families and jobs can be so insurmountable as to split up a loving couple. Move location? Relocate family? Get a different job? .... expect you've covered all of those.

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After 5 wonderful happy years together? Are you sure:

• you can't find a way to stay together or else that it was...
• that happy and wonderful (sorry, just asking).

Surely there's a way to have some form of relationship if you are really happy and wonderful together? This is too sad...

Like I said, it's complicated. His kids live in another country from me and my kids. His job is on another third country. I cannot move my kids abroad as I could not take them away from their dad who has joint custody

Well this might sound un-called for but I do wonder about a man who takes a job in a country that is neither the same as his children or his partner. The only thing I can think is that he has a placement with something like the diplomatic service? I know you're going through a difficult time and I'd much rather make you feel better than worse...but your DP does not sound very committed to me - to either you or his kids. If there's any comfort then I think in time you will perhaps be better off finding a partner who can/will commit to you. In the meantime, presumably you can stay friends and keep touch via Skype/meet up for holidays. I am sorry you're upset and time will definitely heal the wound of missing your DP.

Well lovingfreedom I can tell you that's a crock of shit. His ex took the kids to another country and he's moving to be closer to them.

But hey, thanks for answering a question I didn't even ask and kicking a girl when she's down

I couldn't think of an explanation and I'm sorry you're going through this. I must be jaded by many examples of guys doing the dirty. Sorry you lost one of the good ones and would never intend to kick you when you're down. I hope you can keep in touch and that you find happiness either with this guy in future or with someone else (or in the meantime with yourself and your kids).

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you both xx

Well loving you couldn't have been further from the truth. He's not from the uk. He's going back to his home country do he can have his Ds live with him because his ex took then there. His job is abroad because there are no jobs in his industry in the uk.

I think if MN has made you that jaded you should take a step back.

I feel so bereft today. So unutterably sad. I am finding it hard to get through each minute

big hug to u