" I love you". How often do you tell each other?

[OhEmGee24]

Up early with dd and this has been playing on my mind since talking to my sister last night. She is 26 and been married 10 months. Her H works abroad a lot, going away 2 out of every 6 weeks and yet she said they just don't tell each other hardly ever. It just seemed a bit odd to me, young newlyweds who must spend a great deal of time missing each other and yet that strong L word isn't shared enough. I know there's no rule on the issue and personal to everyone! I guess I'm polar opposite as my DP and I say it all the flipping time!

Every night, just before rolling over and sleeping.

Dh says it when we've rowed. He actually says it more than me, to be honest, but I think he uses it to diffuse rows.

We don't say it too often. I tend to say it when I'm really feeling it - DH does the same. It's nice to have it said unexpectedly IMO as opposed to as part of a routine. That works for us anyway. I always feel loved though.

We say it each night as we kiss goodnight and probably once each day at some point in the day too, so twice most days I guess. Usually when one has done something nice or helpful for the other or when one of us is going out maybe.

I try to take the time to say it more meaningfully every so often too, when we properly make eye contact and I tell him I love him.

Quite a lot. His whole family do. Says it to his brothers/sister/parents all the time too. And his best friends. My favourite bit of our wedding video is him getting ready with his best friend and as they head off for the ceremony, they say I love you to each other.

I vaguely recall telling him when we moved into our house about a year ago, I imagine he said it back.

We have probably only said it a handful of times in the 5 years we have been together. It's not the words that matter to us, it's how we make each other feel

Each to their own