need some support - will be alone with 3 young dcs

[amigoingmadhere]

See previous threads for a bit of background.

Basically have decided to split from abusive and destructive husband.

Have three dcs - youngest is only 3 weeks old.

Not sure how I'm going to handle this and need some hand holding for now..

anyone?

Am here, how are you?

Have you contacted women's aid?

You're amazingly brave. Wonderful of you to put your children and yourself first,x

am ok for now thanks but youngest seems v unsettled and screamy tonight .. bf so maybe it's something I ate? soya?

DH in total denial about whole thing.. but him telling my eldest (5) to 'shut up' tonight when he said the room was too dark only confirmed to me how cruel and selfish he has become

haven't contacted womens aid ... not sure how to go about whole thing really. Have solicitor's letter drafted re telling him to move out..

I remember the 3am stage...lovely and snuggly, but oh the screaming! Maybe a bit colicky?

Have you been to see your GP or spoken to HV to get some practical support? Sure Start help?.

I had 3 dc's under 3 but no experience of being totally alone with them so my heart goes out to you. Have you got anyone else near by to help out with childcare? The thing that got me through it was afternoon naps! My older 2 dropped their lunch time naps so it's now t.v time while I collapse on the sofa.

Does your baby like being swaddled? are you happy to co-sleep?

Mad, are you OK today?

am ok today thanks but don't know how to get dh to move out. Sorry too much backstory to go into right this second but he hasn't done anything dramatic in the last few days - just years of on and off abuse and I've had enough, esp as I think the dcs are being too affected now.

How do I get him to move out temporarily (I want to at least give him the chance to show me he can change..)? He has been refusing to move.

am trying to contact the solicitor as the original letter drafted is now out of date and I need new wording.. but not sure that will work. I suppose send the letter and if he doesn't move out of his own accord then will have to take formal legal proceedings?

Not even sure where I stand legally. What are the grounds for divorce? Unreasonable behaviour?