I am 18 months out of an abusive marriage. Have casually dated lots. Realised I am completely emotionally unavailable <wasn't actually bothered> have enjoyed getting to know myself <heave> Have liked being single, and really have just kept myself at arm's length from all the guys who have pursued. Have been perfectly happy with this because most of them were actually probably ^bad^ news - reverting to type and all that. But here it came, out of the blue.......someone I used to go to school with........and yes, he ticks all the 'relationship' boxes intellectually, value-wise, looks wise etc. But even with this one, I am being all evasive and at arms length - ignoring texts, making other plans when I am supposed to see him. I even had a naughty snog with one of my 'long term' daters last weekend- felt ^terrible^ for being such a lying cow. He would be gutted. Why am I being such a cow to him? It's like I am sabotaging it or something?? He knows all about my past, and I have said to him that I know he is normal and just investing emotionally in the relationship as a normal person would. But I just can't seem to do that. He replies that "it's OK, I'll take of you what you can give for now. I am not needy and am perfectly happy to wait and see what happens" This makes me think it can't be for real and I start to back off even more. He genuinely seems to be everything that I would want out of relationship and is offering me it. BUT I can't seem to take it. WTF is wrong with me??