The Great Escape-tips

[HowamIgoingtogetoutofthis]

Am out of here, hopefully next week. After a day of H trapping the DC and I inside and shouting at me for 5 whole hours I have not one bean of sympathy the gloves are off.

Got new place to live, subject to paperwork. Got van, boxes and people to move stuff.

Just need to speak to DV agency for advice on police support on the day and sort out changing work status.

Then it's change phone, get bt phone, redirect post (to mums), delete Fb, change email address and start to sort out new home/life settle children to new nursery. Which is lovely by all accounts.

Terrified of him coming back during exit, even with 6 witnesses and police presence. Will get babies out into hire vehicle round corner with my sis first. Then throw everything (I am still trying to stealthily weed our belongings) into boxes and in a van. How quickly for a 2 bed I wonder? Needs to be less than 2 hrs.

Must remember nappy bag, comforters and milk beakers for DC.

Scary. Then the wait for him to start the campaign of looking for us begins....

How far are you going?

Have you reported his behaviour? Do it before you leave. So when he finds you and wants access, then you have a paper trail of documented abuse to fall back on. Won't stop him getting access but would make it easier to bargain for third party handovers.

I have logged it with GP, HV, civil solicitor, my employer. I have told the police I need the reports back and why. I will speak to local DV people about getting police there to prevent breach of peace. A friend of a friend works for police in child protection localish, the next borough and might help. Don't want to raise a potential arrest enquiry until I leave. Any police officers around who can advise?

I know he will lose it completely. He won't harm himself, this much I know, firmly against his religion.

Am going 300 miles. Will be pressing for sole residence with no access because of the abduction threat.

Does he have PR? If he doesn't have you thought about changing your names and really trying to 'disappear'?

He does-for now. I won't be on electoral roll, will possibly change name in sep when I need to move job. There goes 31 years of well, me.

Am going somewhere off the beaten track. He probably doesn't have wherewithal to find it. Mum is getting me a new car and sorting out the flat. She has been a champion. She can be really useless at times, but she has come into her own these past few weeks and I owe her big time.

just wanted to say well done and good luck esp for d-day!!

Oh gosh, OP. no idea how long it will take, but I'm sure you will manage it in a superhumanly quick time. Well done for having the strength to walk away from this.

Good luck OP...your post brought back many memories of my great escape almost 10 years ago..exDP was an expert in EA PA SA while remaining the perfect partner to all in the outside world. My chance to escape came when he treated himself to a 2 week holiday. I had it all planned...transferred job, found new apartment in East of Scotland, my family all on standby for move day. The night before move day the buzzer to flat went...I knew it was him, he'd come home early! So I opened door to him, grabbed my bag and ran! I escaped with clothes I was wearing, handbag and my car...and Ive never looked back now very happy with new partner of 5 years and our DS 3. Im willing you on xxx