DH and I have always had a very good sex life. DH has always had a very high sex drive, and it's caused arguments sometimes because I'm not always as keen as him. It would be rare for us to go more than 2 nights without sex, and that's after nearly 20 years of being together.
But, recently DH's sex drive seems to have really faltered. We're now going 5-6 nights each time without having sex. Which is just unheard of. And, even when we do then have sex sometimes he just can't interested, and again that's totally unheard of.
He's under an enormous amount of stress at the moment, because there's some really big changes happening at his company. And he's working very long hours (having to work at home all evening) and I know he's very stressed by it all. He admited how stressed he felt last week, when he attempted to have sex, but just nothing was happening.
I don't suspect him of having an affair, or anything like that. His behaviour hasn't changed in any other way. He's still affectionate, but I can tell he feels slightly strained about the no-sex thing, and is trying to pretend everything is okay and normal, when it obviously isn't.
I'm very reluctant to instigate anything, in case it turns out he's not interested because it just makes me feel horribly rejected.
He still makes suggestive remarks, like he's always done, but they don't lead to anything now. He'll make out like he wants sex later on, then is happy to let me go to bed alone, while he carries on working.
We went away for the weekend, last weekend and he seemed more relaxed and actually instigated sex 3 times and it was fine, just like old days. But day to day I'm starting to feel very rejected and unattractive. I didn't realise how much of my self esteem was due to the fact my DH has always made it very obvious how physically attractive he's always found me.
But now I just feel like he's being affectionate and 'kind' to me, but doesn't really fancy me anymore 