I am I think happily married but recently I met someone who crashed through all that - he sent me some friendly text which I replied to before I realised what he meant - am pretty slow on the uptake these days - and i have broken all contact. It was really hard. This was a total stranger and it scares me my marriage must be so crap that a kindly act and a few text messages have sent me this way. I have never thought about or looked at anyone before since we got married. I mean I really fancied him and had to stop it before I did anything about it. Is this usual? We have been married 6 years without me even thinking about it. Nothing has changed just me.