For a few months I'd wondered if my partner has been on Internet dating sites, as I'd gone on with a friend to see if her DP was, and seen a profile weirdly similar to his, and challenged him, he denied it. Something had changed, although we saw each other the same, and he was affectionate towards me, the sexual intimacy was different. He'f frequently been too tired for sex, and we'd had a few rows about it.
We've been seeing each other for 8 months, he's divorced, I'm separated. we both have DCs, mine are still young. We met online.
Last week, we fell out at bedtime, because he was too tired for sex, and he went to sleep on the couch. Then I checked the messages on his phone, there was a conversation from which looked suspect, he asked in it "so are you looking for a relationship?". I didn't read it all. I was stunned and ashamed of myself, knowing that checking messages probably said a lot about my trust in him etc. So, I challenged him. He denied any wrong doing, said it was a friend and he was telling him about me. I also asked him again if he was this character online. This time he conceded it was a friend, not him.
He actually said he was stunned as I'm the love of his life, he doesn't need or want another woman, and he's happy with me, sees us altogether as a family etc. Next week we are supposed to be going away for a weeks holiday together.
So last night, after feeing he wasn't being honest with me, I created a fake profile with the intent of luring him to chat. and he did. He wanted to exchange pictures and gave me his email, it was his!
This was at 130am, I wrote a letter to get my feelings out, but haven't challenged him yet. I'm relieved in a way that I wasn't going mad and my instincts were correct. But I'm sad that he lied. And he wanted us to live together. Anyho, I know I've done a bad thing, but what now?