How an earth can I make a friend around here!!

[mamafridi]

I've been in the uk for three months now and it is slowly dawning on me that making friends is not any easy thing here. I'll admit where I used to live there was a big expat community and so meeting other mums at play groups was not a problem and swapping numbers and then meeting for coffee at their homes or at my place was not a big deal. But even though I am a Brit and and used to live here I have noticed that even striking up a conversation can be a bit like pulling teeth.

I am a stay at home mum at the moment and would really like to befriend some of you mums but I'm stumped on what the etiquette might be and why it so difficult to make friends.

I would agree. I moved to Newbury just before DD was born, and found it so hard to make new freinds. NCT is very useful stepping stone to meeting others. And just putting yourself out there. There are loads of new mums who feel the same. Look at the kids you little one of playing with at playgroup and try to strike up a convo with their parents.

Hope it all works out!

If you still see a health visitor mention it to them. I am in Herts and I think I must have mentioned to my hv that I was struggling not having people around all the time as I did at work. My lovely hv put me in touch with a mum she knew who lived just round the corner who had a dc a few months older than me. Must have been the most useful and best bit of matchmaking as two yrs later we are good mates and it has also helped me meet others in the area. Children's centre staff and those who run toddler grps are also good for this as thy know where people live - those who are on your doorstep will be the most useful. Goof luck and don't feel silly asking for help.

Agh I meant HER dc was a few months older than my dd!