DH and i have been married for 9 years this year and i have had enough. However i was diagnosed with depression at the beginning of the year and i am worried that the lack of anything i feel towards DH is as a result of the AD's i am taking .
Dh is not a good parent , i have a son who i had when we met , who has no relationship with DH , they rarely if ever speak . Our daughter who is nearly 10 , has given up trying to get his attention and he says awful things to her , calls her lazy , goes on about her weight , she is overweight but this is to do with medication she needs to take for a medical condition . We have a toddler son , Dh probably spends more time with him as he is 'cute' , but has never bathed him and he is nearly three .
Dh works from home , which i find really difficult , i cant do housework that is noisy between the hours of 9 and 6 , i cant invite people round due to noise. He gets up at 8 and wanders downstairs , does as he pleases and then goes back upstairs to work . When he finishes work he wanders down again and does as he pleases , until i feed him. I work part-time , so two mornings a week he has to get up early , so that i can leave for work . I always have to get him up , he would never think to set his alarm and come down so i wasnt fretting about being late .
On weekends DH goes off and does his own thing , he doesnt ask if it is ok and tbh its easier if he isnt here .
I do everything for the children , the house etc . I do all the gardening , take stuff to the tip , sort the car out , i go to all the school events (dh attends none), all the shopping ,cooking , cleaning ,laundry etc .
Occasionally DH goes away with work and the atmosphere in the house is 100% better .
I have tried to talk to him and explain how hard it is for me , but basically he doesnt do stuff he doesnt want to , and why should he when i do it all for him.