really worried

[durham69]

So I am 34 weeks pregnant. It wasn't planned. I guess we weren't careful enough. I knew when I found out that dh would probably not be pleased. I was shocked at the time but I am now looking forward to it.
However, dh, although supportive initially is making it fairly clear he really is not impressed and clearly not looking forward to it.
He told me on our way to 12 week scan that he wouldn't care either way whether news was good or bad.
More recently he has been moaning about the state of the house (clutter) because of all the stuff baby needs. Also moaning about having to pay for this, that and the other.
I also think deep down he feels I have tricked him which is not so.
I really think this could be the end as I am not sure our relationship will stand the new addition if he is like this now.
Any tips or thought appreciated.
Thank you

Well, maybe he will change his mind once baby is here, I don't think it's uncommon for dads to not feel involved until then.

However I would say that this isn't really a great start is it? And you must be feeling very unsupported.

sorry durham your DH is behaving like a spoilt brat. He had something to do with this baby too and he needs to pull himself together.
Time for a big talk (you might have done this already) telling him this is how it is and unless he pulls himself together and towards you your relationship might not recover.

Hope he "man's up" and you get the support you need and deserve.

Have you been married long and do you have any other children? Or is this a situation where you have been wanting children and he has been fobbing you off?
Even if you were a bit careless-on-purpose, he still had the option of taking care of contraception himself if he really didn't want a baby.

Been married 13 years with 2 other dc.
We decided to stop at 2. This is a late accident.

Your DH must surely be aware that no form of contraception gives 100% protection. Accidents do happen. It's no more your fault than his and it's most unfair if he's taking it out on you.

One of my sisters deliberately became pregnant even though her DH was adamant he didn't want any more than the two they already had. Typical of her, incidentally. If someone doesn't agree with something she wants to do, she just goes ahead and does it anyway, and smiles sweetly afterwards. End of rant!

Anyway, though furious at first that she'd stopped taking the pill without informing him, he came round eventually, helped by the fact that the scan showed the baby to be male. They already had two DDs and the prospect of a DS appealed to him.

I don't know if this situation would apply to you, but thought I'd mention it.

I hope your DH starts being a bit more positive. Best of luck x