Does anyone have a grip?

[LikeAnOldUnwantedBiscuit]

I appear to have lost mine entirely. I need to get one.

Have name changed for this (hope it works). May attempt a longer post in the [terrifyingly real] divorce and separation section but the short of it is that I found out yesterday that my husband (can't bring myself to do a cutesy abbreviation) had an affair with an ex shortly before we got married. We've only been married a couple of years. She's in another country so they haven't seen each other but they have exchanged cutesy facebook messages "thinking of you always" type stuff.

I took a day off sick today and am home alone, trying to figure out what to do.

I am trying to use every ounce of self control not to email her and tell her exactly what I think of her.

But it's him I should be angry at, isn't it? I would lose even more self respect if I emailed her, wouldn't I?

I am, like my user name, feeling so crushed and broken.

Aye. Naturally cynical lawyer head temporarily obfuscated by love.

Thank you, Cockpark (great name!) accepted most gratefully. And the hugs.

Biscuit - well done with the covering yourself. Well done with the courage you are showing. Snooping did produce something good. You have seen the light and can look forward to a better future.
Good luck and a hug from me.

Thank you, Dprince. Hugs are v good.

No problem. :)
Remember we are here whenever you need support. The next few months may be difficult and great in equal measure. We are always here.

Hi Biscuit,
I know you can find a way to deal with this & be strong.
He truly does not deserve you or your commitment to him.
You are a real & valuable individual,
Wishing you strength & peace x