PissyDust needs to say sorry

[PissyDust]

Sorry for being rude on threads and hijacking

This is not going to go well, he is now home..

I'm sorry for tonight, I wish i could post my own thread. Thank you for being patient.

Some will know what I mean..

I have called him because I can't go to bed before his home because he has the key and he won't didn't answer.

I'm tired

What?

This is Pissy's thread

You don't have to apologise to anyone love. You are being driven half-mad by your wretched husband's selfish behaviour, that's all.

If he's got a key, go to bed even if you don't think you'll sleep. If he hasn't and there's any risk of him waking you up when he deigns to come home, text him that you're going to bed in 15 minutes so best he tells you what he plans to do about getting into the house, because you won't want to be woken up.

Darling, your thread worried me so much I searched for you and found the thread Sternface was on.

Don't apologise, there is NO need. If your relationship's damaged your confidence so much that you feel you have to be all oblique and apologetic for no reason, I fear your problems are worse than you thought :(

Do keep posting. People will help you.

DH is home now and I need to try and sleep, thank you for your replies I will post tomorrow when I am not so tired.

Banish the word 'sorry' from your everyday vocabulary - it's a word that is meant to convey personal sorrow; as in 'I'm sorry for your loss', 'I'm sorry that you're in pain' and it has been rendered virtually meaningless through inappropate use.

If you personally fuck up or do someone harm - whether knowingly or unwittingly - 'fess up, 'apologise', and ask what you can do to put it right.

As it happens, you have no need to say sorry or apologise for anything you've written on this board and it seems to me that you should put Lundy Bancroft's 'Why does he do that' at the top of your reading list - and read it first.

inappro ri ate use! The last thing I wanna do is propogate sorrow where it's not appropriate.

Hope you are ok this morning PD.

I think you are better off reading Lundy Bancroft than Shirley Glass too x

I'm having a lazy day after my late night, I normally spend the weekend tidying and washing but me and the DC are having a duvet day.

I can't decide whether to confront, try to find proof or stick my head back in the sand.

I didn't speak to him last nigh I just went to bed and he went to work this morning.

Thank you for the recommendations, I will take a look.

It really hurts doesn't it?

Sticking your head back in the sand isnt working for you.
So I would do one of the other two options.

No, she doesn't have to say sorry at all.

What Pissydust must do, is practise here, on MN, to say 'this is what I think, and this is what I want, and this is what I say' ...

and find out that MN thinks she is absolutely fine just as she is, and that she has an absolute right to exist, just as she is.

And yes, that you were frightened that we would scorn and reject you because you had THE CHEEK to say that you were worried, frightened, wanted more...

kind of tells me that your H is a selfish arse who has done a real number on your head.

I agree, Lundy Bancroft first.

You sound so sad, Pissy. Big hugs xxx

Just wanted to send you some strength PD. This is an awful, gut wrenching situation to be in and I understand your anger and frustration. You have every right to feel those things. You need support, ask for it, we are all here, you have NO need to apologise. Let the wise people on MN support, help and guide you to wherever you want to be.

Pissy, you sound like such a lovely person I wanted to add my support

I missed your other thread, and anything else, from last night, so I just wanted to remind you that MN is always here.

Post again when you can and never apologise for being a pest. You are not a pest.

You are all so kind. I'll admit that I asked MN to delete this thread because in the cold light of day sober it smacks of attention seeking drama lama but MN said no so I have asked for my username to be taken out of the title.

I'm going to bide my time and gather the evidence I need, it will take time but after a chat with DH today I don't think he is cheating, more enjoying female attention at work, I've explained how this makes me feel and asked him if he would be happy if I behaved like it at work.

I'm hoping I have planted a seed because we are normally quite happy.

Thank you for putting up with my wobbles, I would be a complete nutcase if I didn't have MN right now.

take care, pissy

I hope it works out for you

either way, you know where we are

sounds like your fella needs a dose of the ole wake the fuck up

let's hope he listens to the alarm clock

All the best PD. I hope your dh now realises how difficult you were finding things and works to sort that out. You weren't attention seeking, you needed a bit of support and why not on here?

You aren't as crazy as you think, many of us have BTDT and know what loneliness feels like, so you are not alone.