Stag do dramas

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My boyfriend is on a stag do. There's about 12 of them and they only flew out at dawn today. My man has just text me saying one of the others is already becoming very flirty with a girl by the pool, rubbing cream into her. He has a long term girlfriend. I just don't get it :(

Why in earth would your boyfriend text you to tell you that... is he deliberately trying to wind you up and make you feel insecure and worried?

Prick

Nooo not to wind me up!! We all think this guy is a nob and everyone had their suspicions including his mrs.

Your bloke is the type other blokes hate on stag do's! Reporting back to his girlfriend about that? Weird behaviour if you ask me. Whether its right what the other fella is doing is another issue but I really don't see what business it is of your fella's or yours?

Nooo not to wind me up!! We all think this guy is a nob and everyone had their suspicions including his mrs.

Well I guess he's just reporting back then? What's the problem?

Maleview's post neatly summed up every reason why I hate "blokes" and "stag dos". Yes, the problem here is absolutely the individual who values women and their partner and is shocked by scumbaggy behaviour and actually shares his feelings with his gf(!) jeez... "what happens on stag.." "if it's in another postcode it's not cheating" "bros before 'hos" and all that infuriatingly ridiculous misogynistic bullshit disrespectful abusive twats tell themselves and each other in order to enable their shitty behaviour...

Amen offred.

Well tbh...I think a lot can be told about a man from the company he keeps. If this guy is such a toss piece, why would your dh, go on a stag holiday with him, or any of the rest of them for that matter?

I genuinely don't get it. In my dhs job you've got two types of guys, ones like this, who go on lads holidays etc. Ones that don't, just regular mates stuff, family holidays. But then they are the group who use words like mrs. The two groups don't really mix as the family guys don't want to get involved with the whole wingman business.

I know I'm a cynic but I'd think the lad doth protest too much.

Missfaversham - no problem as I said we all had our suspicions of this twatty individual, I just meant I dont get how he can be so disrespectful of his own girlfriend. The mind boggles.

Houseof - he is a cousin of the stag so I presume they felt compelled to invite him.

Houseofplain- I used to really believe that but some people are able to comfortably have very close friendships with people who do or believe things that they feel very strongly against for themselves. I've married one such tolerant man!! It perplexes me, I can't tolerate people who hurt others either through beliefs or actions, I feel morally responsible for my knowledge of their behaviour but my DH manages to disapprove and extricate himself from situations where his friends are behaving very badly without it changing his feelings about them. I am a little envious of this because I think it is doing the "I don't like the behaviour but I like the person" thing and it shows he is tolerant. I do feel an essential part of being able to manage friendships with others who behave crappily sometimes is making it clear you don't want to be involved and it sounds as though the OP's bf may be doing this when he's texting her about it.

Oh so you aren't talking about your fella, you're talking about the one that,s rubbing in the sun cream then.

It's easy, the blokes a twunt.

He rubbed cream in. Lets not launch the lynch mob just yet. Is flirting and physical contact verboten now

Symfem - call me old fashioned but when you're in a relationship, yes flirting and physical contact such as rubbing in suntan lotion is unquestionably verboten

you are old fashioned

I'll just wait for other opinion.