DH is a sales account manager & works very long hours. He often comes home & carries on working. He'll take calls anytime, evenings, weekends & sometimes on holiday. This obviously has a huge impact on his stress levels & he is often withdrawn & moody. We have discussed this many times but never seem to find even a 'meet in the middle' resolution. I try to be understaning, he is the main breadwinner & he works hard but he is bordering on being a workaholic.
We have two ds's 2 & 5yrs. I pretty much cover all the chores, bath the dc's, put them to bed etc I feel utterly exhausted but try to remember dh is probably even more so & plod on.
The thing that really rattles me is dh's moodiness. This week we had our ds sports day & I was really thrilled dh was accompanying me as he usually can't. However, he was constantly checking his phone & seemed totally distracted. Our ds got really upset in one activity & as I comforted him, dh was still glued to his screen. When I finally got his attention, he snapped at me that we shouldn't crowd ds & as 'too many cooks' etc. He was quite off with me the whole time which was reflected in what he was saying to me. I felt really embarassed & I wished he hadn't bothered coming.
I think what I'm saying is I'm starting to feel really resentful towards dh. We probably do work as hard as each other to be fair. But I work really hard to make sure he dosent have to worry about anything else. I feel that he has no space in his mind to give any thought to my wellbeing. God I hope that dosen't sound really self indulgent, it's really getting me down. Thanks for reading!