No Strings Sex Sites - why do they do it?

[Igetknockeddownbutgetupagain]

I posted on another thread and realised I may well be hijacking, so sorry BonnieBell x

I discovered my ex had an adult friend finder site as one of his most visited web pages one day. I was stunned.

I like sex, but my ex always gave the impression he could happily do without. I did struggle to understand it, and consequently my flirting when out in bars and clubs became merciless, as I sought alternative forms of attention to make me feel sexy and attractive (a bit pathetic I suppose).

We had no children - he was firing blanks.
We went out and did things, although he had few friends.
He enjoyed his job but was often tired, so that gave him a good excuse.

I tried all sorts to get him interested - it sometimes worked briefly, and then we were back to sex once every 2 weeks.

Its been a year since we split, and I'm happy now. But I'm trying to understand what it is that makes a man go for an adult friend finder site - the women I saw on there didn't look like the kind of women I'd want to fuck!!!

Because people (men and women) have different sexual needs and desires. Some want sex without intimacy, with people they have no emotional connection to.
You flirted shamelessly, that was your thing, not condemning it, thats what you enjoyed.

I would say there is a gender divide.

Most women have to find a man sexually attractive to shag them.. whereas many (not all!!) men, see it very differently and as their saying goes "who needs to look at the mantlepiece when poking the fire".

Sexist? Stereotyping? yup.. but that is reality for you.

Maybe they think women on this site will do really kinky things? Things they wouldnt want women they love to do ( the whole Madonna/ Whore thing)

Maybe the buzz of a new body with no connection is all they care about? Wham, bam type of thing.

Its not my thing in the slightest so I can only guess.

"back to sex every 2 weeks"

Omg for many people that would be a great sex life. How much were you wanting? Or are you doing a reverse thread?

If it was the actual adult friend finder website, we had a virus on our computer that popped up the adult friend finder website about 200 times a day. If you google it (well don't but if you did!), you would see it was a REALLY common virus and it was bloody difficult to get rid of.

So he may well have been a twat but it might hve been something else

Didnt realise he was on it whilst with you. Big difference to my first post. He just a bollox then

Toomuchmonth - yes, once every 2 wks is a fabulous sex life to some people. So is once a year, to others. It's all relative.

We were in our twenties, no children. I'm not an unreasonable person.

I don't feel being judged about how frequently/infrequently I wanted sex is the point of what I'm saying.

Sounds like it was HIS thing being on these sites even when with your sorry no other way to say it , hard for you , but good if you can put this behind you and move and and maybe realise you are better out of it.