Hi, My first post & im pretty nervous. Sorry its so long.
DP & I have been together nearly 6 years. We arent best friends and sometimes i dont like him very much. I cant talk to him about anything and we do row a lot about stupid stuff.
We broke up after 4 years and he moved out but we got back together soon after and conceived DD (unplanned). He was unsupportive throughout the pregnancy, disconnected emotionally (didnt want to come to scans, wasnt interested in my bump etc) and i found emails between him and an ex on a regular basis, they were innocent but i was hurt. I wanted to leave but was scared and confused.
When DD came along i got pretty much zero help. She turned 1 recently and he has never got up in the night with her, never put her to bed and he doesnt get involved in 'expected' things like washing, putting her clothes away, preparing her meals etc. He is very good at playing with her and making her laugh but so is her uncle and grandad.
I must admit i was a nervous wreck at the beginning and preferred to do things myself, plus i was bf, but he never offered help. He decided to sleep on the sofa so he could get sleep as he had to work and has never returned to our bed.
He clearly didnt want a baby 
but didnt have the balls to tell me. I knew he felt trapped.
I am also 12 weeks pregnant. When we found out i was devestated (we had sex once that month) and made an appt for a termination. I told him this and he shrugged his shoulders. I couldnt go through with the termination and when i told him a huge fight broke out resulting in him locking himself in the shed.
When i speak to him about the baby he changes the subject, he only says negative things like 'how will we afford it' and 'where will it sleep' which are all valid points but workable.
He also doesnt drive (hes 32) so i got him lessons for xmas......he hasnt booked one yet and says he feels pressured by me. I need him to drive by the time the baby comes but i know he wont.
Yesterday i had my 12 week scan which showed i have a shortened cervix, will have 2 weekly scans and most probably have a suture put in, it scared the life out of me. I rang him and he said 'oh'. I then tried to talk to him about it when he got home and he started a row with me accusing me of only talking about the baby. He then went on to inform me that he will never marry me and he doesnt know why we are together sometimes. I got very upset and angry with him and he said he hated me when i got upset.
He seems to bottle up all his emotion, have a huge rant at me and then walk out before i get chance to reply. He wont talk to me about anything, i literally have to follow him around the house asking him what the hell hes on about. Last nights argument came out of nowhere. I feel like he doesnt want this but he just cant say it, maybe because of DD and what might happen if we split.
I just know that he isnt bothered about this baby and that im going to have to cope with both of them (2 under 2) on my own. I dont know whether i should just grin and bear it or branch out on my own. I dont know how to leave, im a student just about to start my 3rd year of a very demanding medical type degree (which i will have to do part time now) and i know i wont get a place on my own with no income. My parents are supportive but dont like DP and will be very 'i told you so' with me. Im a very independant person and living with my parents is a huge no-no. My brother has a spare room but its in a block of flats and he has lots of parties there.
We do own another property but its rented out at the mo and the tenant has just signed a new 6 month lease.
I keep hoping he will change and love being a dad and a family as much as i love being a mom. I am not a perfect person but i just want to have a loving, reasonably stress free life for me and my DC's.