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My marriage is about to collapse and I am not sure if I care.

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yellowroses · 02/03/2006 13:31

Regular poster etc.etc.
I know you arent going to think much but I feel terrible. I am a mom of two and my marriage is collapsing. MY dh is so unhelpful and lazy that I have started an affair and now I can't imagine wanting to stay with my h or even leaving to live with my lover.

I really am between a rock and a hard place.

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MaloryTowers · 02/03/2006 13:36

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Feistybird · 02/03/2006 13:37

You kind of sound like you've made up your mind -do you just want to discuss it?

MaloryTowers · 02/03/2006 13:38

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desperateSCOUSEwife · 02/03/2006 13:38

can you go away for a few days to think this out

meggmoo · 02/03/2006 13:39

Oh dear YR. I must agree you sound so sad. IS there any chance that your dh could change? Do you want him to find out about your affair? I only ask because a friend of mine did so and really did want to be caught so that her dh either had to buck his ideas up or get off his arse and sort things out.

throckenholt · 02/03/2006 13:40

write down the good and bad points of being married - if you can do it for now, and say 2 years before the kids were there.

Can you realistically imagine getting back to a place where good outweighs the bad ?

MaloryTowers · 02/03/2006 13:44

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mumsnetminx · 02/03/2006 14:23

yellowroses is your marriage that awful?

Bugsy2 · 02/03/2006 14:42

What do you actually want YR? The affair sounds like a distraction or some light relief for you. Have you ever taken any time to think about what it is you want for your future?
Does your lover want to be more than that? Do you want to be with him?
Would your H ever get his act together & help out more?
How old are your children? What sort of relationship does your H have with the children?

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yellowroses · 02/03/2006 19:22

Yes we meet at a local travelodge wthat's where I have been this afternoon. I am worried I only love him becasue of my husbands attitude towards my children and my parenting.

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meggmoo · 02/03/2006 19:43

YR? You around still?

mumsnetminx · 02/03/2006 21:31

you meet at the local travel lodge? are you children at schoool now? what does he give you that you dont get from dh? can you tell dh how you feel?

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