Couple with more than one child: WHEN do you have sex?

[notbackinthesaddle]

I have a baby and a toddler. One child is always awake!

WHEN do you have sex? Do you make time for this specifically or do it at a certain time each week? The months are going by and we haven't had any kind of romantic life (that lasts for more than a furtive 30 seconds) for ages.

Any advice or is it just a matter of waiting until they are older?!

I've changed my name to avoid embarassing the grandchildren...

u make the most of the furtive 30 secs!

We don't get chance much during the week now at all. Weekends are easier. Plus all the kids go bed at 6, so that gives us our time.

Well spontenaeity (sp?) has gone right out of the window, I'm lucky as both mine are in bed asleep for 7.30 so as long as we are in the mood after that time, we are alright!

IF we want to do it during the day - tough!

I have 4 children so obviously dh and I have found time for sex after 2 children!

How do you mean, one is always awake? That can't be true surely? What about when you go to bed for the night? Couldn't you fit a quickie in then?

dh has low testosterone and to cut a long story short sex after about 4pm is guaranteed to end in failure!

Both are bad sleepers so evenings are generally spent visiting between half-sleeping children

dh works nights
so get it when i can

we set aside a night a week for time on our own whether nooks is involved or not

try couple with more than one child and a MIL in the adjacent bedroom

best form of contraception ever

Erm....never!!!

I've got 3 children all under 5 and we manage it! They all sleep well from 7.30-7am though.

have 8y 4y and 9 month old. they are asleep by 7.30 but im always too tired or busy then tired when finished whatever im doing

Ahem - on Sunday morning we hid in the utility room for a quickie...

having a toddler and a teenager who stays up till ten does hamper things a lot!!!
Dh goes to bed before dd sometimes as he gets up at 4.30 some mornings.
thank god for sleepovers/dd going babysitting.

My friend just tells her teen that her and dh are going upstairs to be alone.I just couldn't relax with my dd knowing we were at it.

whenever I can make him!!!! I have a higher sex drive than him so I have to take it when I can! Sometimes I go to his work at nursery times!but mostly at night before sleep and morning in shower, if I can get the kids settled and ready for school in time!

I have 5 kids and still manage it!!
or we would only have 2 wouldnt we!!! ;)

We have a baby and a toddler.

We don't have much sex; had some one morning this week when we were awake and neither child was .

How old are they? Is the baby old enough to sleep train? They can't ALWAYS both be awake surely? God, you poor thing if they are!

To answer the question:
When the children are in bed and so are we (or downstairs, it doesn't have to be in bed!)
When we've both taken a day off together and the children are at school/nursery
And very, very occasionally, on a Sat am when the older one has looked after dd and they're both happily playing downstairs.

We manage after we get to bed, but our three are good sleepers, thank god. Mornings are definitely out now that we usually have not opened our eyes before we have ds1 and dd fighting over the space between us in the bed. Also, if dd has done one of her stealth attacks on dh's side of the bed in the night (she doesn't try mine, she knows I will send her back to bed) he will be grumpy first thing and blame me for ALL THESE CHILDREN and not want to get marital in the slightest.

ha. theoretically it's easy, they are all 3 asleep from 7.30pm to 7am. so we have all evening every evening. they are aged 5, 4 and 1.

in practice i'd rather curl up with a good book. but that's probably another thread.

Have pencilled it in for March 2008.

Rarely, when dh's mood is so bad I figure i had better or when kids elsewhere. On a Sunday morning whilst kids have dvd if Dh at home, but his shifts rarely allow

as I do fancy him rotten,just never get a chance / always busy.

I have two little ones that both go to bed at a reasonable time, but to be honest, I am generally too tired by the time we go to bed, but sometimes we do it then. Very occasionally, they sleep in and we don't. And we have been known to disppear into another (locked room) when they are both happily watching tv, but this does not happen often.

Sex? What's that?!!!

ditto!

was thinking the same thing now we have DD2 5 weeks cosleeping and DD1 whos 19 months

I have one 13 months who doesn't believe in sleep and often is still bouncing off the walls at 11:30pm and a 4 week old who doesn't know night and day yet, normally one of sleeps downstairs and one upstairs, its my dh birthday at the end of the month and grandparents are looking after dd and ds so guess what dh is getting for his birthday? . . . yes a good nights sleep!!!