feeling sorry for myself...never asked to be a bridesmaid or godmother but always used as a backup

[daisymoo123]

i know im feeling sorry for myself, i have a responsible job, married 2 dc and am always there in a crisis but have never been asked to be bridesmaid or godmother.however if someone has a crisis or some other problem im usually the one that will be contacted to reassure, blah , blah , blah. l have a good sense of humour and most of the time it doesnt bother me but sometimes.....
i have 3 brotheres, not particulary close to any of them, one has 2 kids, i get on welll with his wife buts he is a tit and he knows i know it. this tit of a brother is actually godfather to my eldest. do you think im being a prat...?????
( by the way this has been bothering me for years )

But you're in a much better (?) position than those that are always the bridesmaid and never the bride.

I've never been asked to be a godmother either my dcs don't have godparents. Sounds like you're feeling a bit taken for granted?

You were asked to be someone's wife and I bet your dcs have asked for stories, cuddles and love - all more valuable.

thanks for that not, when i have mentioned it to my dh in the past he has taken it up as his/my goblet (is that right?) of his family, my family and friends not recognising what they are missing in not having me as their gosmother, bridesmaid, etc. i dont mention it any more to him because he takes such offence on my behalf. i know im being a prat and just feeling a bit used

It's their loss, honey.

Bridesmaids are rarely friends into old age and godparents frequently drop out of their godchildrens' lives, but you'll be a stalwart sister and aunt forever.

Be grateful that you've never had to appear in public and been immortalised in photos in an unflattering get up that you'll never wear again, and think of all the money you've saved which would have been spent on treats for your godchildren.

Why not spend that money on sponsoring a child in a Third World country? There's thousands of children in need that would love to have you as their honorary godmother.