Oh the irony....

[feelinlucky]

I haven't had sex for years and have recently been dating a really nice guy. We had our first intimate encounter this weekend and what do you know - he appears to have issues with his member . It really couldn't have been any more frustrating. I was so excited about having sex. We have a lot of sexual chemistry and he just didn't get hard. I did notice there was very little by way of movement previously when we kissed and he was pressing himself against me. I feel this is a total deal breaker. I can't imagine being with someone who can't get hard.

If he's a really nice guy and there is sexual chemistry then why not give him a chance. Might be nerves.

He could of just been ultra nervous.

You mention no movement in previous times? How often/many times has nothing happened?

You are entitled to feel how you do, and if this is a deal breaker then so be it.
There are no rules about who should get what chance for what predicament, your within your rights to want whatever you want without guilt, as long as you are sensitive with others.

Yes he could have been really nervous. Maybe I should give it another go but he did say to me it was too early! It is only a few dates in but we were both very clearly getting ready to be ready. I haven't had any experience of this before. I'm just so bloody desparate for sex

Ooh, that's annoying!! I would put it down to nerves, particularly if he had said he thought it was too early. Perhaps just leave it a couple of weeks. Go back to just dates out and a kiss at the end of the night so there is no pressure on him to perform. Then in a couple of weeks try again. Afterall, if you have waited years, what is a couple more weeks

I know marathon but I really really want sex! I can't help feeling I'm jinxed.