(Honestly it is for a friend!)
My good friend has had enough of her DH's behaviour. He goes out all the time with his male friends, never puts my friend first, and never, ever says no if a friend asks him out for a drink.
She has tried on many occasions to tell him how hurt she is and how undervalued and taken for granted she feels, but he refuses to change his behaviour and, in fact, becomes very defensive/verbally aggressive stating things like, "Nobody ever tells me what to do".
On top of all this he contributes very little financially to the household and spends far too much time with his family (in-laws) on top of time spent with friends.
My friend doesn't want the relationship to be over (they have a young DD) but she feels very negative.
During their last serious chat she stated to her DH that she "felt bored" in the relationship as she never sees him. A week later he has booked a holiday abroad with a single - yes, single! - male friend.
She desperately wants things to change but doesn't know how to express this in the best way without issuing ultimatums.
BTW I have told her that my speech would involve the words "buck up your ideas or you're out!"
She has one divorce behind her and I know she wants to avoid another one.
Any ideas??